Hello Debate Opponent 2 EP17
I called a take-away.
A take-away.
I haven't eaten deep-fried dough sticks for a long time.
Oh, deep-fried dough sticks are tasty.
Let me try one.
Mom, I'd like to have a talk with you.
About your major?
We parents
don't mean to meddle in this matter.
After all, what we know
is also limited.
We are aging.
There are many things
that we know less than you.
How about
telling us more about
the international trade major?
Yes.
If you refuse to say something,
I will consider that you get nothing
to refute me.
I'll say something.
Go ahead.
I chose this major
not only because I like it
but I also did a lot of homework.
Our major
is more than just a little.
What we are going to learn includes
policies and guidelines for foreign trade,
and operating rules of the international market.
These things,
if I work in the financial area,
will be absolutely useful.
Secondly, the employment prospect.
Recently,
Those foreign-related joint ventures
value the graduates
from our major very much.
Professional segmentation
is becoming increasingly targeted.
It is true that
financial major is promising as well.
But the best may not be the fittest.
Right? Mom
Did you remember last time
the coat you adored
was only S size available?
Your size is XXL.
You can't buy it home
just because it's pretty.
Right? Dad
You are right.
Who, who is wearing XXL size?
My point is
mom, you can't make decisions
only from the good things online.
After all, I
still have two years for studying.
Hum.
Have you thought it over?
Fine.
As you like.
You, both of you
won't persuade me anymore?
No.
I'm telling you that
don't come back to us crying
if you fail in the future.
Hey.
Sweetie
As long as you have faith in yourself,
we have faith in you too.
Absolutely I have, dad.
Have breakfast.
Who is it?
A commercial text.
I don't think so.
Hum.
You still know how to come back?
What did you do last night?
Your dad said that he had been waiting for you.
I don't know what he meant.
Xiaobei, Xiaobei, where is my toilet paper?
Xiaobei, haven't you come back? Xiaobei, haven't you come back?
When others come home,
they help parents do housework.
Look at you.
You play the smartphone or computer games
all day long.
You even didn't sweep the floor.
I'll go out to buy groceries.
Do clean the house for me.
How old are you?
Still so sloppy
that run outside in pajamas.
Change your clothes.
In the Spring Festival Day, In the Spring Festival Day,
you don't know
how to clean yourself up.
If you continue like this,
how could you find a girlfriend?
Go back as soon as your school starts. Go back as soon as your school starts.
Really!
Alas!
Ah.
Well,
We should have eaten more.
What if I can't enjoy a reunion dinner
in the New Year's Eve?
What if I can't swallow it?
Ah.
Well,
I'm telling you that I'm telling you that
today is our girl's
first time cooking.
We have to eat
even if it is as inedible even if it is as inedible
as slop.
Clear?
Ah.
Slop.
Hey.
Stop eating.
Put it back.
Dad.
You've cleaned for a whole day.
Sweeping and wiping
are cleaner than licking.
Since your major matters were settled,
your mom has taken a load off her mind.
So So
She is busy getting ready for the Spring Festival.
How about
telling her that
you change your major again? you change your major again?
No.
She can't leave us alone without a dinner.
What should we eat for dinner?
Just a meal. I can handle it.
Alas. Alas.
Wait for a second.
More dishes are to be served.
More,
more and more. more and more.
OK.
I've made it. Come and have dinner.
Oh.
Dinner is ready.
Well.
Oh yeah.
A reunion dinner made by our girl. A reunion dinner made by our girl.
Is it edible?
Help yourself. Help yourself.
Take a seat.
Sit down.
Sit.
Oh
Sit.
For mom.
For myself.
Dad, give mom's chopsticks.
All right.
Ah,
I'm exhausted.
Enjoy your meal.
Okay. Okay.
Begin to eat.
After you. After you.
I tasted them.
They are delicious, OK?
I'll try.
Tasty.
Awesome. Awesome.
Ah.
My sweetie, they are awesome.
Well done!
Maybe this is talent.
Really delicious!
Have a toast Have a toast
to our little chef.
Happy New Year. Happy New Year.
Dad
Even if the dishes are inedible, Even if the dishes are inedible,
you can't drink all the time.
If my mom discovers
that I allow you to drink secretly again,
she will scold me again when she comes back.
You can choose the major you like, You can choose the major you like,
and do whatever you like in the future.
I'm happy for you.
Now you are talking.
Why did you perform a show at home
with my uncle?
That was following your mom's order.
From my heart, I think
you should
do whatever you like.
Were you
determined to go to a state-owned enterprise from childhood determined to go to a state-owned enterprise from childhood
and then your career has flourished since then?
Childish
When I was playing music,
there are countless young and beautiful ladies there are countless young and beautiful ladies
chasing me.
Playing music?
Yes.
Dad, these are just a few dishes. Dad, these are just a few dishes.
Haven't you drunk too much?
Wait for a second.
Take a look.
Oh my Gosh.
Dad,
I didn't imagine that you were also
a boy with stories.
At that time,
we formed a bank
with a few buddies.
We sang all day long tirelessly We sang all day long tirelessly
with no rival in my youth.
Your mom,
was fond of
my uninhibited love of freedom in those years.
Why did you go to a state-owned enterprise
living a life line points?
Because you were born.
My age
is not like yours. is not like yours.
No matter how well I play music,
I can't earn the money for your milk powder.
Did my mom agree?
Your mom has always been on my side.
At that time, At that time,
I always thought that music
was the most important thing in my life.
But afterwards I found out that
you are the most precious part in my life. you are the most precious part in my life.
Happy New Year, Chubby Dango.
What are you doing?
You haven't answered my phone for so long. You haven't answered my phone for so long.
I just made a full, formal banquet
for two distinguished parents
in my family.
Well,
even if auntie even if auntie
disagrees with your chosen major,
you don't have to embarrass her in this way.
What are you talking about?
My dishes are very tasty.
Besides,
my mom agreed.
Really?
How did you brainwash her?
Of course, it's due to your Sister Yu's
excellent adaptability
and and
outstanding speaking skills
and a series of non-violent measures.
Finally, she agreed.
What about you? Is everything going well? What about you? Is everything going well?
My parents still insist that
I should choose a major related with editing.
Although the final decision
is up to me,
I still need to convince them.
The more they are like this,
the more serious I think the situation is.
I think you should
make decisions by yourself.
Well,
I'm so torn.
Why did you laugh? It's frightening.
Ah? Ah. Ah? Ah.
Nothing.
A joke just came to my mind.
A fat man
fell from the 20th floor. fell from the 20th floor.
What would he look like?
Chubby Dango.
Goodbye. Friend.
Nannan, it's time for a meal. Nannan, it's time for a meal.
OK.
Come and enjoy your meal. Come and enjoy your meal.
You ran out last night.
Your mother and I are very concerned.
From now on,
You can't be so capricious.
If
The start-up you mentioned.
Your mom and I
discussed about it.
We think We think
it is not impossible.
You mean...
But I must state
the requirements clearly.
First of all,
The venture capital The venture capital
is risky.
The investment return ratio
for the first two years
was a loss.
So your mother and I
can only bear
your entrepreneurial risk for two years.
If your career hasn't improved
in two years, in two years,
we'll give it up.
Dad
Secondly,
No matter what happens in the future,
we can discuss it nicely.
You can't just run out.
Thirdly.
Have dinner.
Yes.
Let's eat.
Eat more.
Your dad cooked them
specially for you.
Thank you, mom and dad.
The soy sauce added
is bought by you.
Mom, I'm ready.
Let's go.
Take less specialties.
You took too many specialties last time.
My roommates dislike them.
Come out. Come out.
Mom.
Mommy. Mommy.
Your father and I Your father and I
will play mahjong in your third aunt's house.
Take a taxi to the station yourself.
Take care. Take care.
That I asked you to leave me alone
doesn't mean you don't need to care about anything.
You just gave me 100 RMB.
It costs 150 to the station.
Shall I get off halfway and go by myself? Shall I get off halfway and go by myself?
What a miser!
Xiaoyu
Xiaoyu, what are you doing here?
Hello, uncle and aunt.
Your mom didn't see you off? Your mom didn't see you off?
No. I'm taking a taxi
to go to the railway station myself.
Come with us.
We're just going to see off Nannan. We're just going to see off Nannan.
Come on. Get in the car.
Get in the car.
Thank you, aunt.
Thank you, uncle.
Nannan Nannan
After arriving in the university,
remember to take out
the quilt first.
It's full of flavor after a holiday.
Recently,
it is still cold.
do remember to put on more clothes.
You can't eat cold food.
She still treats you as if you were a child. She still treats you as if you were a child.
Ah,
Xiaoyu
Yes.
I heard that your mom said that I heard that your mom said that
you are also a member of the debate team.
Are you on the same debate team
with our Nannan?
I...
I joined a debate team, too.
But we're not on the same team.
She's on the school team.
I'm in another team.
Oh, that's all right.
Yes.
Do you have any plan
for your recent internship?
Aunt, I'm only a sophomore. Aunt, I'm only a sophomore.
Ah.
Well, your aunt's memory didn't serve well.
Oh. Oh.
Are you
preparing for TEM-8?
It's pretty difficult to pass.
Get ready for it.
I I
just passed TEM-4.
Oh.
I didn't mean it this time.
They are for you.
That's all? That's all?
I went to see you
all night by bus
in my pajamas.
I missed you, too.
Wow.
I didn't expect your affection
to be stronger after the Spring Festival.
You are more handsome. You are more handsome.
It's for you.
Thanks.
What about mine?
Oh. Oh.
50 yuan, thanks.
Was your cola
drunk by a big star?
Why is it so expensive? Why is it so expensive?
Isn't your dear son's
cost of meals for half a month
money?
All right, you two go on. All right, you two go on.
I'll go to the back kitchen and get ready.
It will open soon.
The group sent a message.
This debate perfectly explains
what is the harmony of time, place and people.
We are people who have experienced
family psychological defense war.
We will surely win.
Nan Bei
I think
maybe
we should be honest with others.
Don't you also say that
if we break up if we break up
it will be bad for the debate team?
Did you figure it out?
The main reason is that The main reason is that
the bad result can hardly happen.
I'm sorry
for keeping a lid on this for a long time.
We are in love.
Oh.
What's your reaction? What's your reaction?
We didn't lie to you.
We are really in a relationship.
It's true.
Ah.
So what?
Xiaoyu
Do you know that
there is a feeling
that
you really want to get something
and suddenly one day
you finally get it,
but in your heart there will always be a sense of... but in your heart there will always be a sense of...
I get it.
emptiness?
Ma Nan
Why don't you say something?
Aren't you two always together?
Who told you we've been in love?
I thought you two
had been a couple.
Forget it.
Sorry, I'm late.
What happened?
Why is the atmosphere so dignified?
Nan Bei said
Xiaoyu and he are together.
Oh.
Ah！
Ah!
Well, what do you mean that they are together?
You mean they are in love?
Then how could you be so
calm?
We can...
Let's look at the files.
OK?
Come on. Come on.
Well, we...
Our rivals this time
are from Donggang Jiao Tong University. are from Donggang Jiao Tong University.
They are super good. We should treat them seriously.
And the competition system
has changed a lot.
First of all, in the process of competition system,
the traditional arguments, refutations and rebuttals
are cancelled,
and changed into two debaters vs. two debaters.
They can choose respectively They can choose respectively
speech
or refutations.
If we choose refutations,
they will select they will select
any debater
to accept our refutations.
In that case, we could
give it a try in advance
to see what they've got. to see what they've got.
You stupid boy.
They must
send the strongest to take the move.
If so,
isn't it easy for us isn't it easy for us
to lose this part?
It makes sense.
You hit the nail on the head.
Besides,
if we choose refutations, if we choose refutations,
in the three minutes of this round,
we have to share
with our opponents.
and are faced with
the uncertainties brought by our opponents.
So I suggest
that we collectively choose arguments
and give up refutations.
And throughout history,
few teams choose
refutations refutations
rather than arguments.
The biggest change
in this debate
is the audience voting system.
In each round,
audience will vote as judges.
The voting percentage will be displayed in real time.
At the end of each round,
the data will be locked.
So how can we count as winning?
Finally, they will calculate the total number of votes.
Is that clear?
In other words,
No matter which team
wins in any round of the debate wins in any round of the debate
from the beginning to the end,
if it lags behind
in the audience's vote,
it will still lose the game. it will still lose the game.
If so,
it leaves us a lot of tactical space.
Exactly.
However,
it's not very reliable it's not very reliable
to give the audience the right to score.
This is an eternal argument.
Whether the debate should Whether the debate should
conquer the opponent
or the audience.
Or neither,
but pursue
the depth of thought of the debate.
But if you pursue depth, But if you pursue depth,
it will definitely be impossible
to leave it to the audience,
because the audience's attention
is easily get distracted,
which will make the debater
focus on
attracting the audience,
and it is difficult to have depth.
I think it's not that serious.
This can This can
market the debate game.
At least the audience would love to listen.
I don't have such a big pursuit.
I care nothing as long as I can win. I care nothing as long as I can win.
You got it.
Comrades,
anyway,
there is no choice there is no choice
for us in this competition.
We must
dance in shackles.
I hope everyone can do their best. I hope everyone can do their best.
The debate is a three-person system.
I've already discussed with Hao.
Nan Bei, Xiaoyu and Dango, Nan Bei, Xiaoyu and Dango,
you will be participating.
No, no, no.
I haven't figured out
how to communicate with my dad. how to communicate with my dad.
Hao will be better.
Hao, what do you think?
No problem.
Excellent! Enough talk.
Boys and girls, let's practice. Boys and girls, let's practice.
The relaxed feeling
for not having to appear on the stage is so...
Welcome everyone to
Qingguan Cup Debate Tournament, Qingguan Cup Debate Tournament,
also the site of today's League
Points Match in the provincial level.
On my right is
today's affirmative side, today's affirmative side,
the debate team from Donggang Jiaotong University,
who won regional championships
for three consecutive years.
Today, their position is Today, their position is
in family relationships,
being yourself is more important.
Let's welcome them.
Tough.
A hard nut to crack.
Change another shop next time.
It is too hard.
Be grateful that I bought it for you.
Eat it.
The opposing side that challenged them
was the debate team 235,
a dark horse
that flourished
in a series of games.
Let's give them Let's give them
applause, too.
In this competition,
we adopt the new system
of the 2020 Industrial Cup.
Don't worry. I'll watch your back.
Be in command of yourself.
Don't cause troubles.
The result of this competition
is decided by the on-site audience
voting together. voting together.
Each audience can change votes for three times.
Please
use your rights carefully use your rights carefully
and make responsible choices.
Now I declare
the competition officially started.
Now let's invite the first positive speaker Now let's invite the first positive speaker
to speak first.
Do you prefer a speech or a refutation?
We choose speech.
As expected.
Let's welcome them to state arguments.
Thank you, chairman.
Greetings to all of you present,
firstly, I'd like to ask a question to everyone. firstly, I'd like to ask a question to everyone.
In our country,
How many family relationships
do we have
including grandparents,
parents,
brothers or sisters? brothers or sisters?
I am my parents' daughter,
my paternal grandfather's granddaughter,
my maternal grandfather's granddaughter,
my younger brother's elder sister,
my father is also my grandfather's my father is also my grandfather's
son,
my mother's husband,
and my maternal grandmother's son-in-law.
And And
Actually,
one equation
for the number of family relationships
is that the number of family relationships
equals the total number of people minus one divided by two. equals the total number of people minus one divided by two.
In this way,
in an ordinary family,
there are 28
different family relationships.
You are a father
also a son, a husband and a son-in-law.
You are a son,
also an elder or younger brother,
a paternal or maternal grandson.
Do you know why
in such a complicated family relationship
we still feel comfortable
and don't seem
to be in trouble?
It's because
behind all decisions
is yourself.
You just have to be yourself You just have to be yourself
and being yourself
is the cornerstone
of all healthy relationships in our view.
It is not easy
to be yourself
and play
28 different roles.
Throughout the history, Throughout the history,
killing brother or father, betrayed by relatives.
Which family tragedy
was not caused by
the dislocation
or lack of family identity?
Do you think I would
be drunk every day?
Isn't it for the family?
Do you think Do you think
I'm still willing to be with you?
It's for the family.
The sentence "It's for
this family"
using moral kidnapping using moral kidnapping
has pushed many family relationships
to pieces
and total collapse.
On the other hand, those happy families On the other hand, those happy families
who have kind fathers and filial sons with good brotherhood,
which one can realize
the unity and harmony of the family
without without
fulfilling their own duties?
I hope that we will put aside
the pretense that it's for the family.
Instead, shoulder family responsibilities,
and be ourselves. and be ourselves.
Stop
hurting the family in the name of love.
Thank you.
What the hell? What's her routine? What the hell? What's her routine?
I know she must be wrong
but I can't figure out
what's wrong.
Calm down. It's a piece of cake. Calm down. It's a piece of cake.
Hao, defeat her.
Now
let's give the floor to the first negative speaker.
Do you prefer
a speech or a refutation?
Speech.
Please.
Thanks, chairman.
Hello, everyone.
Just now my fellow debater argued that Just now my fellow debater argued that
the family relationship was too complicated
for me to cope with,
so I had to be myself.
The argument given by her
is called the number of family relations.
The formula is simple and clear,
but the number
has neither temperature
nor meaning.
Of course, I can't be
grandpa's daughter.
Neither can I be father's wife. Neither can I be father's wife.
But can't I take care of them
for grandpa and dad?
Empathy is not a substitute.
Putting yourself in the position is not a copy.
Are family relationships
really that complicated?
Your mother gave birth to you
after 10 months.
Your father
worked hard for you and even quit smoking and drinking.
What I actually see is
simple and straightforward love.
What's so complicated about it?
Even as my fellow debater said that
you have 28 family relationships,
isn't it
28 love?
Throughout the ages,
whoever kills brothers and fathers
is not a lonely person?
Whoever is betrayed by their relatives
is not
for their own self-interest? for their own self-interest?
So where is
the problem?
Our team believes that
it's precisely because
they are too concerned
about being themselves.
My fellow debater said
Families who consist of kind fathers and filial sons with good brotherhood
are a model of family harmony.
But the correct reading should be But the correct reading should be
that father is kind to son and son is filial to father
with brothers love and respect each other.
Fathers care for children.
Children care about their father. Children care about their father.
Older brothers care for younger brothers
and the vice versa.
This is the family we desire,
isn't it?
The crow feeds parents. The lamb kneels down to suckle. The crow feeds parents. The lamb kneels down to suckle.
This is the truth
that all things in nature know.
Family affection makes altruism,
which seems not in line
with natural selection with natural selection
become
the most powerful link
to firmly maintain family relations.
We believe that in family relations,
being a family member is more important than being yourself.
Because only when you think of them
and act for them from your heart,
can we be called a family. can we be called a family.
Thank you.
Fight fire with fire. Fight fire with fire.
Speech combined with the rhetorical question.
How awesome Hao is! How awesome Hao is!
I didn't expect
Hao to be able to take advantage of emotions.
I almost gave my heart to her.
She did move the audience.
But the rational argument of the speech
was sacrificed for the real-time audience.
What are you afraid of?
There are no professional judges in this competition.
My fellow debater said that
for the family is a kind of altruism.
Must altruism be good Must altruism be good
in family relationships?
Not necessarily.
Everyone has read
The Gift of the Magi.
The husband sold his watch The husband sold his watch
to buy a comb for his wife.
The wife cut her hair
to buy a watchband for her husband.
This is certainly
a beautiful relationship. a beautiful relationship.
But is it because of the beauty
of this relationship
that makes it
an immortal masterpiece?
No.
It's because of
the bitterness of this relationship. the bitterness of this relationship.
The root of the bitterness
of this relationship
is that they both forgot that
being themselves
is the cornerstone of a relationship.
The relationship between our people
is like a line between two points.
Is it necessary
to have my point first
so that this line can be connected?
If all of us are like If all of us are like
this couple
and lose our points,
what we end up with
is a comb without hair
or a strap without a watch. or a strap without a watch.
We always say it's for your own good.
But in most cases,
we do things from our point of view.
We often
cook a dish cook a dish
just because of the child's comment
"Oh, it's so delicious"
to keep cooking the same dish.
I like
James Cameron.
My girlfriend
saved up living expenses
to buy me the Collector's Edition of Terminator,
but what I like
is Avatar.
Then the worst thing is that
I have to watch the Terminator
with her. with her.
So everybody,
why don't we admit that
no one can fully understand
another person? another person?
Even if you are his wife,
husband, parents or children,
you can't.
So if we can't,
why can't we why can't we
be ourselves?
There are not many major disputes
in the family relationship,
but trivial matters
that the spoon
will definitely touch the edge of the pot. will definitely touch the edge of the pot.
Be yourself.
Fully express your demands.
Keep the diversity in family relations. Keep the diversity in family relations.
Seek common ground while reserving differences.
So that these problems and contradictions
will not make a big mistake
because they are hard
to say and dare not do. to say and dare not do.
Do we have to sacrifice
our most precious things
for an unwanted gift
from each other? from each other?
Don't do that.
It's more important to be yourself. Thank you.
The competition is a bit fierce.
Oh, crumbs! The speech prepared by Xiaoyu Oh, crumbs! The speech prepared by Xiaoyu
is completely inconsistent with his point of view.
Next is the time for
the second negative speaker. the second negative speaker.
Will the second negative speaker
choose speech or refutations?
Xiaoyu
Will the second negative speaker...
I choose refutations.
Why is it different from what was agreed?
You have only three minutes in this part. You have only three minutes in this part.
The effect of refutations
is certainly not as good as that of speeches.
What the hell is she thinking?
Trust her. She knows what she is doing. Trust her. She knows what she is doing.
You know nothing. Stop eating.
Now let's welcome
the second negative speaker
to question to question
any positive speaker.
Time is three minutes.
Hello, my fellow debater.
Hello.
You just said that
because everyone is different,
we have no clue about
what is really good for others.
Is that true?
Yes.
But shouldn't my family be But shouldn't my family be
the one who knows me best?
My favorite food is
my mother's egg fried rice.
She knows that.
Why do you have to say
she doesn't know?
How does your mother know How does your mother know
you love egg fried rice?
Is it because you
chose to be yourself
and expressed your affection
so that she could know?
So in your definition,
being yourself is to be honest. being yourself is to be honest.
Acting for the family must be
insincerity?
It's not what I mean.
My point is that
it is a more authentic choice
to be yourself to be yourself
when there is conflict between you and your family.
My father likes chicken legs very much.
But he always
chooses to give them to me.
Is this for himself Is this for himself
or for me?
It's for you.
That's why he lost...
But isn't the choice from
his true heart?
Is his choice
hypocritical?
Let's take a step back.
My fellow debater, you're right.
But I'm afraid many more important things
are not as simple
as you think.
For example, to be pushed to get married.
Should I be faithful to myself
or rush to close life events
for the peace
of my parents?
Under this competition system,
rhetorical questioning is not foul.
They want to use rhetorical questions to control the tempo.
Xiaoyu won't bite.
She'll ask back.
Why do parents push you to get married?
Maybe because your parents
are eager to hold a grandson.
You mean being urged to give birth to a baby.
My fellow debater,
you are so naive.
They are like peas and carrots.
Just two steps.
Getting married and having children is a joy in life.
Parents hope you will be happy as soon as possible.
Is that wrong?
Parents want me
to be happy so they urge me to get married.
But this But this
becomes the most unfortunate thing
in my life.
My fellow debater, in my opinion,
it perfectly explains
why it's better to be yourself for others.
This guy has really got something.
Where is the key to the problem?
Is it caused by your parents Is it caused by your parents
for your sake?
They just want
you to have hot meal to eat
clean clothes to wear
and someone to take care of you
when you are sick.
Is that a problem? Is that a problem?
But you don't want to get married.
That's the problem.
So as long as there are different views,
there will be problems, right? there will be problems, right?
Isn't it a fact?
So the state of harmony but difference
does not exist?
Harmony but different
is of course the most ideal state.
But don't the problems arise in the family relationship But don't the problems arise in the family relationship
when people in a family
hold different views?
No.
The difference is not terrible.
the terrible thing is the inability the terrible thing is the inability
to understand the differences in family members.
It is due to incomprehension
that the family relationship
has problems.
Is it the most important thing
to be yourself at this time? to be yourself at this time?
Even so,
isn't it more important
to be yourself
as the cornerstone of all healthy relationships?
The importance of the foundation
was just refuted
by the first speaker on our side.
What is your more important
criterion for judgment?
It's the foundation.
What is
your standard?
Being yourself or for the family
which is more conducive to problem-solving, which is more conducive to problem-solving,
is more important.
Therefore, my fellow debater,
it is more conducive
to solve the problem by being yourself.
Acting for the family
is called evasion problem. is called evasion problem.
Very good.
So, my fellow debater,
do you agree with
our criterion for judgment?
Thank you.
We did not win this round.
I thought there would be no problem. I thought there would be no problem.
Relax.
Although we suffered
a small loss in this round,
we took a big advantage.
Although it was a small win on the scene,
it was more difficult
because the opponent had taken over
the judgment standard and comparative consensus.
We have set standards We have set standards
on this round of refutation,
giving us more confident
in the free debate.
And the result of the debate
is calculated by is calculated by
adding the votes of all rounds.
The victory or defeat of a single round is not vital.
So the final result So the final result
depends on the free debate.
If the other party abandons the essential discussion
and only talks about the methodology
of solving family problems,
it will only make us
lose more battlefields.
We must turn the table around.
Make use of the existing advantages
to seize the battlefield of methodology
and destroy their arguments. and destroy their arguments.
Xiaoyu
Now, it's the time for
the free debate.
The two sides speak alternately,
four minutes for each side. four minutes for each side.
Start from the affirmative side, please.
If you have a
domestic violence husband,
should you stand up bravely should you stand up bravely
and be yourself,
or not resist
for the so-called harmony?
Everyone, remember
that when you encounter domestic violence,
call the police, get divorced call the police, get divorced
and divide your property.
This wave of processes
is the biggest responsibility for you and your family.
On the contrary, doesn't this husband's
domestic violence
justify the horror of being only for himself justify the horror of being only for himself
and not for his family?
If a person's personality is irritable
and stubborn,
would you still think that
being himself
is good for family relations? is good for family relations?
According to what you said,
is it better for family relations
if he has a gentle nature
to be himself?
Are there more good people
or more bad people?
Are you questioning being yourself
or discriminating against character defects?
For the phenomenon of people who help brothers at no cost,
is it a disadvantage for the family? is it a disadvantage for the family?
It is originated from
a deformed
family relationship and cognition.
Don't evade problems.
Please answer me directly. Please answer me directly.
Does it count as a disadvantage?
I don't think so.
Why?
How can the women who are known as
helping brothers at no cost
betraying betraying
her and her husband's small family
be regarded as family members?
Xiaoyu is really good at jumping out of the circle.
Because she is unreasonable.
The phenomenon
is due to the abnormal values is due to the abnormal values
caused by long-term family environment
and family education,
rather than simply being yourself,
or the choice made for the family.
Essentially,
son preference son preference
is the culprit.
In 2013,
An old father in Jiangxi
tightened his belt and bled himself white
in order to marry a daughter-in-law
for his son.
As a result, he As a result, he
was abused by his son.
If he was willing to be himself,
would such a tragedy
not happen?
It is human nature
to consider for children. to consider for children.
You don't blame
the greedy son,
but blame
a father who worked hard for the child.
Won't your heart hurt?
Is it a kind of compromise and tolerance Is it a kind of compromise and tolerance
to do things for the family?
Wrong.
Acting for the family is an attitude,
not necessarily
a very specific behavior.
So your side
just think about the family
from your heart.
What you behave
is very honest to be yourself.
They are in a standoff.
Almost at the same level. Almost at the same level.
It's good for us.
Our emphasis on acting for the family
is a way is a way
to empathize and promote
communication and exchanges.
An old couple,
the husband likes to eat fish head
and the wife likes to eat fish tail.
They both give They both give
each other
their favorite part
for each other.
As a result, no one can eat
the part they like.
They do things for the family. They do things for the family.
Why didn't they promote communication?
Instead, they wasted each other's hearts
in silence.
My fellow debater,
This is a love story.
Don't you think it's warm? Don't you think it's warm?
If they only care about
themselves,
will such
a touching love story
still exist?
There are also many love stories,
all of which can be deeply moving.
But if blind dedication
is advertised as a love story,
is it the biggest misunderstanding
of true love?
Do you mean
to exchange a lifetime love to exchange a lifetime love
by not eating fish head for a lifetime?
Yes, I do.
After all, true love is hard to get.
Although I can't eat fish head,
I can still eat
hot pot, barbecue, ice cream, hot pot, barbecue, ice cream,
right?
I do, too.
Is this a public display of affection?
You will get used to it.
I'm in my 30s.
Ten years ago, my dad didn't let me buy Bitcoin
for my own sake.
He insisted that they were all liars,
so financial freedom
passed me by.
Why did you harm your family
for the sake of your family? for the sake of your family?
It happened that ten years ago,
when I was in middle school,
I wanted to start a business and open a shop.
I didn't listen to anyone who tried to persuade me
and I lost everything.
Why is it so miserable Why is it so miserable
to be yourself?
If you don't be yourself first,
I eat whatever you prepared
and do whatever you like.
In the seemingly peaceful situation,
my family members can't hear my heartfelt wishes. my family members can't hear my heartfelt wishes.
How can they be
truly good for me?
I think you can
be yourself first.
So being yourself So being yourself
is a prerequisite for your family,
right?
Is the prerequisite more important?
My fellow debater,
don't you remember
the criterion
we just confirmed? we just confirmed?
I feel like Xiaoyu
was pushed back to the standard line again.
Almost. Keep on attacking. Almost. Keep on attacking.
We need to find a breakthrough.
to pull the topic back
to the core issue.
Mommy's boys
think about moms' feelings all the time. think about moms' feelings all the time.
Are they good men?
I think mommy's boys
are not thinking about moms.
They just believe
what their moms said is right.
Their moms, it's impossible for their moms
to be right all the time.
He thinks his mother is always right.
Isn't that a problem?
Yes, it is.
So I have never agreed So I have never agreed
behaviors of mommy's boys are right.
On the contrary, let sons
live the way they like.
Is this for their sons?
This is simply satisfying themselves.
Don't worry. I'm not.
Scram!
I wanted to apply for literature
in a college application form.
But my parents asked me to study finance.
Should I give up my dream
for the sake of my parents?
In that case, In that case,
your parents should
respect your wishes.
Be more considerate of your family.
The more you communicate, the better you understand.
When family members conflict with When family members conflict with
their own wishes,
if you act for the family,
shouldn't you follow
the family's wishes?
Not necessarily.
My fellow debater,
this is not necessarily. this is not necessarily.
That is not necessarily.
What is more important?
In this example,
whether it is you or your parents,
if you think more about your family,
conflicts will not arise. conflicts will not arise.
Similarly, whether it is you or your parents,
conflicts are inevitable
if everyone is just about to
be themselves.
Doesn't this suggest that Doesn't this suggest that
it is more important to act for your family?
On the other hand,
does a good family relationship
have fewer conflicts, the better? have fewer conflicts, the better?
Does avoiding conflict
necessarily benefit family relationships?
Sometimes bickering
is also a kind of
family fun.
So more conflicts
is
a sign of good family relations?
Well done!
When the weather gets cold,
should I wear thermals
for my mother?
Does it count as a family relationship?
Doesn't it count? Doesn't it count?
Fine, it does.
Wearing thermals is a way for your mother
to express her concern for you.
But you just went against your parents
in order to be yourself, in order to be yourself,
wasting the kindness.
Treat concern as a contradiction.
A good family relationship
has become a total mess.
Don't you think it a pity?
Whenever we list
the drawbacks of acting for the family,
they will say that
it is an unhealthy family relationship,
instead of the family's fault.
So I would like to ask
how to define acting for the family? how to define acting for the family?
That's it.
I think they should be compromise and tolerance. I think they should be compromise and tolerance.
What is the essence
of being yourself?
Principles and persistence.
Therefore, what we really need
to discuss today
is based on the following two consensus. is based on the following two consensus.
In an intimate relationship
like a family,
which one is more important,
compromise or persistence?
Right?
I think you are right.
He admitted it.
Don't worry. He knows what he is doing.
Next
is the final round
of this competition.
Summary statement. Summary statement.
Three and a half minutes for each team.
Start from the negative side, please.
Thank you, chairman.
Hello, everyone.
I think the affirmative side
is right.
The topic we are discussing today The topic we are discussing today
is to discuss
which one is more important
in the close relationship like a family,
compromise or persistence?
But we don't seem to
figure out one issue.
What are we compromising?
And what are we insisting on? And what are we insisting on?
My fellow debater would definitely say
we insist on being ourselves.
We insist on independence
and that our personalities are not disturbed.
However,
does our family relationship
really get better
when we go out
to study?
Think it over,
who called to whom
the last time we talked to our parents?
The most chat records with our parents,
are they
transfer records?
We talk increasingly less We talk increasingly less
with our parents.
The parents have also turned
the most irresistible order
into
a cautious inquiry.
Is this really what we want?
No.
It shouldn't be. It shouldn't be.
Haven't our parents
been young?
Haven't our parents
been youthful? been youthful?
They also got a perm,
wearing flared trousers
carried with radios
dreaming to be a singer
to form a bank
and to realize their dreams. and to realize their dreams.
What made them wear shirts
with cropped hairs with cropped hairs
living a life line points day after day?
It's me.
It's us.
It's every family member. It's every family member.
Once after he was drunk
I asked
my dad
do you regret
giving up your dream
for me?
At that time, At that time,
I always thought that music
was the most important thing in my life.
But afterwards I found out that
you are the most precious part in my life. you are the most precious part in my life.
So
I shaved my hair,
sold the guitar
and make money for your milk powder.
Dad
Do you regret it?
Do you regret
being my son?
He smiled and asked me back.
Do you regret being my son? Do you regret being my son?
I was taken aback at the time
and I raised my eyes to see the family portrait. and I raised my eyes to see the family portrait.
Grandparents spend their twilight years in peace.
My parents worked hand in hand for most of their lives. My parents worked hand in hand for most of their lives.
All my family members
are safe and sound.
No one answered the question
that day. that day.
But I'll never forget
that night in my whole life. that night in my whole life.
We do not advocate
sacrificing ourselves
when the family conflicts.
But can we
think more about the feelings of our family think more about the feelings of our family
when we are dealing with
the most important relationship in life?
To understand
their situation more
because one day
we we
will become them.
Thank you.
What to eat? What to eat? What to eat? What to eat?
We must have
a delicious meal this time.
If this continues like this
I don't know
whether I should hope you win
or not. or not.
Ah.
I'll follow you.
Hey,
Stop your public display of affection.
This is called a double harvest of career and love. This is called a double harvest of career and love.
OK?
Xiaoyu
Gong Chen
Who is he? Who is he?
He was Xiaoyu's Prince Charming in the high school.