[birds chirping]
["Fighter" playing]
♪ Bright lights are flashin' ♪
♪ Your time is running thin… ♪
We are leaving. Today is the last day.
-How are you feeling? -So sad.
I'm happy we're going together.
-Give me a kiss. -Yeah.
You did a good job as a traveling partner. [laughs]
-Now we're gonna be life partners. -[Nancy] Aww.
I found my cowboy.
[both chuckle]
-Yep. -As they say, save a horse…
Ride me.
[music halts]
Yup.
[both laugh]
It's the hesitation for me.
-[music resumes] -♪ Everything that you have conquered ♪
♪ I just hope you see it… ♪
So, last night, I felt…
sad.
Um…
It was definitely an emotional night.
It was just, we weren't able to communicate and, um…
This morning we were able to communicate through what had happened and, um…
have a lot better understanding for it and realize that it wasn't…
I guess, as big… as big of an issue as, um, we were making it out to be.
I wasn't clear with what was said.
Um…
So yeah, we talked about it this morning. We're back on track.
We're back to being our lovey-dovey selves.
[Matt] It's good to kind of have that…
that little stir-up to see how we kind of respond to it.
Obviously, we got a lot of work to do,
but, um, I think we're back on the right track.
All this stuff…
[music fades]
-[Matt sighs] -[pulsing pop music playing]
[cheering]
[Brennon] Aw, heck yeah.
-[Raven] Here you go. -[SK] Thanks, babe.
It's fineapple, 'cause you so fine.
-[SK chuckles] -[Raven laughs]
-[Vanessa] Hi! -Hello!
-[couples] Good morning. -[Vanessa] Good morning.
We hope you guys enjoyed your romantic getaway.
-Oh yeah. -[Nick] I got a question.
How are these physical connections shaping up, huh?
-Mmm. -[Bartise] Oh yeah.
[Nick] Anybody? Yeah?
-Creepy Uncle Nick question. -[couples laughing]
[Nancy] Right?
I know when I saw you last, Matt, you were just chokehold in love.
"This is my girl." Are we still good?
I mean, full transparency, we did kinda hit a rough patch last night.
-A bit of a communication issue. Um… -Mm-hmm.
But being able to wake up in the morning and talk it through and, uh…
not run away from each other and really kind of, uh…
dig into why we fell in love in the first place
was key to, uh, going forward.
-It's real. -Honestly, like, it made us stronger.
After going through last night. So, I'm even more in love this morning.
-[emotional pop song plays] -♪ Look at me now… ♪
Very excited for you guys for this next chapter, this next level,
and taking it back home, living together.
[Nick] How will you integrate your lives?
Careers? Your homes?
Definitely gonna google, like, "How to be Nigerian."
-[all laugh] -"How to be a Nigerian for Dummies."
Is, like… Is that a book?
[laughter]
[Nick] There's one more thing.
We also have your phones.
[couples cheering]
-[Nancy] Oh my Jesus. -[SK] Oh shit.
-[Colleen] Oh wow. -What is this thing?
Here's a little bit of marital advice. When your fiancé is talking to you…
-Put it down. -…just look up.
You're one to talk, boy.
[couples chuckling]
You guys are just three weeks away from your wedding day.
[tense music plays]
[Vanessa] Will you say, "I do," to the person you fell in love with
and got engaged to, sight unseen?
Or will you walk away from them forever?
Is love truly blind?
-We hope you prove it is. -Safe travels, guys!
-[Nick] Good luck, guys. -[Bartise] Thank you.
[all] Thank you.
-Finally. Selfie. -[upbeat pop music plays]
Come here. I'm sending everyone a photo.
[phone rings, chimes]
Miss Erendira!
-Hola! [laughs] -[Nancy squeals, laughs]
[Bartise] I just wanna say hi.
I'm Bartise. I'm in love with your daughter.
[Nancy] Mm!
Oh my God.
-[Bartise] Hello, hello. -[Nancy laughs]
Oh my God. I think tonight
I'm just gonna make a list of who I'm calling first, second, third.
There is a whole list of people. Probably my whole guest list.
I should probably just call, be like, "Hey, be ready for this, okay?"
"'Cause it's happening. I'm so confident we're gonna make it down the aisle."
[in Spanish] Are you Puerto Rican?
[Bartise] No, half Black, half white. But I do speak a little Spanish.
[in English] Oh, wow.
[Bartise] I'm a little nervous about moving forward because
now we're on this vacation and it's just incredible.
It's conducive to continue to fall in love.
Once we take all that away, the real world has got to be a drop-off.
This is no longer a fairy-tale fantasy land we're living in.
We're going to live in each other's normal lives now.
The real world is not a fairy tale.
And so that's what I'm scared of.
-[upbeat pop music plays] -♪ I been searchin' for something… ♪
You ready to get this show on the road? Big daddy.
[Raven chuckles]
It was a once-in-a-lifetime romantic getaway.
-Now, we're back to the real world. -Time to go.
You look, like, cute in this camera.
It really--
A miracle what a bit of face makeup will do.
-Ah. Ah-ah-ah. You ready? -Ready.
Bye, Malibu!
-♪ Somebody to you ♪ -♪ Somebody to you ♪
[vocalizing]
♪ Somebody to you ♪
[music fades]
-["Makin' a Move" plays] -♪ I'm makin' a move ♪
♪ Study long, study wrong ♪
♪ Ain't nothin' gonna happen on a song ♪
♪ I'm makin' a move ♪
♪ Don't need no hickeys for this song I got joy all through my soul ♪
♪ I'm makin' a move ♪
♪ Get up, get out ♪
-♪ Mister Sun is shinin' on me ♪ -[streetcar bell clangs]
♪ I'm makin' a move… ♪
[Nancy] It's gonna be literally, mi casa, su casa.
-Like, we're all living together. -[Alexa] It's fucking fun.
[Cole] Oh!
Home sweet home.
It smells like home.
-[Nancy gasps, squeals] -Okay!
-Look at this cool ceiling! -I'm down with it.
I'm down with the kitchen for sure already.
[Colleen] Aww. Look at our cute little place.
-Our first place. -First place.
[music fades]
-[Zanab] Is this dirty? -[Cole] Mm-hmm.
-Do you know where you can put it? -["Bad Habits" plays]
-Like, a laundry basket. -Really?
♪ No, we ain't perfect But it's worth it… ♪
[Cole snickers]
-[Zanab] This is so great. -What did you think I was gonna do?
♪ We got bad habits and got no shame… ♪
I got beer.
-Whee! -[Zanab] Babe, pick up your things.
[Cole] Chill.
[upbeat music plays]
[Brennon] So, what size walk-in… Can we talk about walk-in closets?
[Alexa] Like, mine's twice the size of this.
-[Brennon] And it's full. -Completely full. Yeah.
-[Brennon] Okay. -[Alexa] Yeah.
-It's fine. We'll-- -[Brennon] This is… This is all I need.
-Babe, I will clear out a drawer for you. -[Brennon] This section, that's me.
[Alexa] Really? Okay.
-I can find some space for you. -[Brennon] Yeah?
-I can get rid of some jackets. I can-- -You'd give me a foot space?
-[Alexa chuckles] Yeah. -Babe.
There's… That's how much I love you. I'll give you a foot.
-[Raven] Jump in. -Ah. That's it.
-Don't break it. -[SK] What do you think?
-I like it. -[SK] Jump in. Let's see.
[both laughing]
-No, it's good. -Wow. It's nice.
[Raven] Everyone's journey is different. So, for me, the goal is to wait
and to have sex until after marriage.
I think living together will definitely make it challenging.
I mean, we made it through vacation, you know, in, like, sexy Malibu.
So, of course it'll be challenging every day, being together.
And I'm not, you know, gonna sit here
and say that
we might mess up.
-Oh! I love it. -[SK chuckles]
I'm so excited to, like, cook dinner together,
to go to our favorite restaurants now. There's just, like, so many things.
Are you ready to go grocery shopping with me?
-At the Nigerian grocery store? -Oh!
Yeah! I really am so excited. What are we gonna get?
-What are we gonna make? -I can show you a thing or two.
-It's spicy though. That's the only thing. -[Raven] Spicy?
Excuse me. Do you know who you're talking to?
-Oh, excuse me. -[both chuckle]
-[SK] So, my language is called Yoruba. -Uh-huh?
-Can you say that? Yoruba. -Yoruba.
-There you go. Look at you. -It's like Aruba but Yoruba.
[SK chuckles]
There's just a few, like, keywords you need to know.
So, like, for example, when you meet a Nigerian person, and you just say,
Bawo ni.
-[SK] Yeah. That's like, "Hello." -Like baloney.
-[SK laughs] -Bawo ni. [laughs]
If you meet, like, a younger Nigerian person,
you say How far.
-Like the English word. -How far.
Yeah. How far. Like, "How far."
-How far? -Yeah.
Regardless of what tribe they are, they'll know what you're saying.
But if you see my mom, you can't say How far.
-You gotta say Bawo n… -'Cause she's not…
-For her, you say Bawo ni. -Bawo ni.
[SK] Yeah. Bawo ni.
-I love it. -That's easy, right?
-You can teach me all the stuff. -Oh yeah. You have a lot to learn.
-["Such a Control Freak" plays] -[vocalizing]
♪ Possession of your soul ♪
[vocalizing]
[music fades]
We have a rug.
[Zanab] Mm-hmm.
This is… Oh this is… Right! This is new for you
'cause you don't have these things in your apartment.
Nope. I'm a boy.
I know nothing of luxury.
[Zanab] I feel like you have some trainability in yous.
Oh, we're good. You can definitely trainability me.
[Zanab] Do you think we're gonna do better here
than we did
on our getaway?
Hundred percent.
The getaway was, like, sounded romantic and amazing, and it was.
-But it also was our first time together. -[Zanab] No, for sure.
So we had to work through all the initial things and, like,
I feel like we were on pretty shaky ground.
But then we salvaged it and I feel like it's way stronger now.
It's kinda like we both thought of what it would be to lose each other
and then I still feel like we're still choosing each other.
To be living here with you and having gone through that,
I think it's actually gonna be really good.
-I think I'm most excited for this part. -We were-- Same.
Mm-hmm.
No, I think this is… I think it's gonna be really just healthy.
[emotional music plays]
[Zanab] Cole and I have just really had to overcome the last few days.
The pool party was a lot.
On the plane, was just my one little time with him
to just kind of let him know exactly where I was.
And I asked him, if he didn't see a wedding day
and an "I do," let's just go our separate ways.
And we both agreed to kinda keep it going.
He wasn't ready. He was like, "I wanna marry the girl from the pods."
And here I am just saying, "I'm the girl from the pods. It's me."
Just remembering why we agreed to, you know,
get engaged without seeing one another,
I think is a really wonderful place to come back to.
Um…
[music fades]
So, I called my family and…
they just…
I don't know how to, like, articulate it,
but they just do not understand what I'm doing.
["Crashing Down" plays]
[Cole] They're just like, "Why are you doing this?"
"Where's Cole? What did you do with him?"
They're just like, "This doesn't make sense."
They just… They're just not for it.
[Zanab] Mm.
-It sucks not having their approval. -[Zanab] That's super hard.
I can only imagine, like, what that would feel like.
-Yeah. -It's unfortunate to hear.
It just breaks my heart a little bit.
-You know? -Yeah.
I think they love me so much that they're just, like, freaking out
that I'm about to make… a mistake.
♪ It comes crashing down ♪
[music fades]
-So, uh, get used to the hair. -[Bartise] Oh, I'm up.
It's in my beard, in my hair. It's everywhere.
I haven't checked for any Nancys today. Have Nancys in your beard?
Would you shed like a dog so I will have some?
Yeah. I'm a little messy sometimes.
I saw all your suitcases in the getaway, and they were everywhere.
-Ah! [laughs] -But it's okay. I'm a mess too.
This is new to me. Never lived with a girl before.
-Only, like, guy roommates. Right? -[Nancy] Oh wow.
But, no, this is all new to me, so…
Are you nervous about first time living with a woman?
-Not really. -Yeah?
I know that you'll be patient with me and talk to me if there's any problems.
I don't anticipate we'll have a problem.
-But you never know. -You never know.
You know, you've never lived with a lady before.
-And… -[Bartise] True, true.
I'll teach you some things, and you'll be fine.
[Bartise] I'm excited.
'Cause if it can work and it does work… then, guess what, it's gonna be forever.
-[Nancy] Yeah. -It's gonna be "I do" at the altar.
["You Could Be the One" plays]
-This is awesome. -Cool, right?
-Isn't this cool? -I'm so excited.
-Kiss. -Yes, ma'am.
[Nancy] Okay.
♪ I showed you all my cards of chance… ♪
-[Nancy] Movies? -Bedroom?
Yes. I love this.
-This is awesome. -[Nancy] Like everything about it. Aah!
-It's a king! -[Bartise] Oh, I love it. I love it.
-It's a king for my king. -[Bartise] We're getting in!
Oh!
-After a long flight? -Yeah.
-Oh God. -This is firm. This is good.
-Why are you so far away? -I'm sorry.
-The hell are you doing? -[both laugh]
-Oh man. Okay. This is good. -I could get used to this.
[Nancy] Oh, this is good.
[kissing]
♪ You could be the one ♪
-♪ You could be the one… ♪ -[Matt chuckles]
[Matt groans]
[both laugh]
[music fades]
-The wedding is three weeks away. -Mm-hmm.
-You ready? -I am. I think I'm…
It's definitely gonna be stressful planning a wedding in three weeks
and going back to real world.
[Matt] Mm-hmm.
Introducing family, friends.
For sure stressed. You get to see stressed Colleen.
-I haven't seen her yet? -That'll be fun.
-No, you haven't seen her yet. -No?
-But she's just, like… She's quiet. -Yeah?
-She's just, like… -So, what about the actual wedding?
-Are you excited? -Yeah. I'm super excited.
But I'm excited to, like, plan it all out.
-Go wedding dress shopping. -Yeah?
-So, yeah. -So, that's gonna be fun, huh?
-[Colleen] Mm-hmm. -Whoo!
-I know. I'm so excited. -[Matt chuckles]
So, now these next three weeks, it's… let's dig into, uh…
-Dig into reality and-- -I know.
-The reality will be the ultimate test. -["Like Satellites" plays]
-But I'm excited. -For sure.
Yeah, I don't… I don't regret anything.
-I don't wanna push the reset button… -No. Yeah.
You know? I like where we are and how we got here.
-[chuckles] Aww. -[Colleen squeals softly]
♪ We fly so high… ♪
[Matt] I love that. I love that.
♪ Let the whole world see ♪
♪ That it's you and me forever ♪
♪ Forever ♪
♪ Forever… ♪
-[Raven] Good morning. -[SK] Good morning.
-[Raven] You ready to get up? -[SK] Heck yeah. [chuckles]
[Raven] Okay, well, get that ass up.
[SK chuckles]
[kissing]
Here we go.
Of course, it was Sunday night in Dallas yesterday.
And the streets were calling.
But no street calls were answered because I'm engaged, y'all.
I'm gonna be a gentleman, and I'm not gonna tell, you know,
exactly what happened, but this one, it was great.
That's all I'm saying. [chuckles]
[Raven] I'm, like, I swear I'm not…
Okay.
It's blinking.
Is there a pod in there?
[plate clattering]
Yeah.
[tap stops running]
[Raven] Um…
I did not sleep well. It's just hard for me in a new place.
There's new noises, new smells, new neighbors.
It's, like, so weird. I feel like the neighbors last night were being loud.
-You were being loud. -[SK chuckles]
I'm talking about late-night calls from Nigeria.
-I'm about to put that phone on silent. -[SK chuckles]
So, those late-night calls from Nigeria.
Uh, we have, like, a seven-hour time difference
with Nigeria.
Some people just don't know the concept of time difference.
[SK snickers]
[Raven] I love you, but I love my sleep more.
-[SK chuckles] -I sure do.
[SK] I'll be sure to step out next time.
-So I don't wake you up. -[Raven] This coffee is just not working.
[machine percolating]
Waking up with SK this morning feels like I'm already tired.
I'm, like, already having a bad morning.
This coffee machine does not work.
I don't even make my own coffee, so that's probably why this isn't working.
I'm definitely a, like,
"order ahead on an app and pick up my coffee" kind of girl.
So, let's get the coffee before I hurt somebody.
Let's go get that coffee.
-Let's go. -[SK] All right.
[SK chuckles]
-["Serotonin Highs" plays] -♪ I wrote a song about you last night ♪
♪ And I can't lie ♪
-♪ It's still in my head ♪ -[kids chattering and yelling]
♪ I remember the hook Was about our lives ♪
♪ Serotonin highs ♪
♪ That haven't happened yet… ♪
-So, this is one of my recent projects. -Okay.
It is a short-term rental.
-It is one of five properties. Yeah. -[Bartise] Okay. Let's see it.
-Okay. Let's get these lights on. -Okay. It feels good in here.
-It's hot as hell outside. -Yeah.
-[Bartise] Damn! -[upbeat music plays]
-This looks expensive as hell to do, like… -Yeah.
You don't take on any debt? You're, like, not leveraging this at all?
This is all your money? Just boom.
Here's several thousand dollars, I'm gonna buy a island?
-It's so far, $100,000. -Holy shit.
[Nancy] Well, to buy it and then to also renovate it.
So, my other properties fund it, and then also my jobs fund it as well.
[Bartise] I'm jealous.
You kind of have the freedom to do what you want every day kind of.
[Nancy] Yeah.
[Bartise] Dang! Barn door.
[Nancy] Yes. So, this is my favorite bathroom.
[Bartise] Okay, how much would this place, like, rent for?
[Nancy] Six to nine grand.
-For a month? -[Nancy] Mm-hmm.
-Per month. -[Bartise] Damn. So, nobody lives here?
-Right? Obviously. -Um, nobody lives here.
But, so, my business partner, sometimes, like, if he's still working on a project,
he'll stay here.
-Your ex? -Um… Mm-hmm.
-So, this is the one with your ex, then? -Yes.
This is the property that we have together.
[Bartise] Mm-hmm.
We only have two of all of our properties still together.
Mm-hmm. So you have another property with him still?
Yes.
[tense music plays]
Yeah.
-Interesting. -Yep.
In the pods, it was, "He's ex-involved. He's my realtor."
Okay, that's cool. That's fine.
Now we're looking at this property that I had no idea he was part of.
It feels like something was hidden.
Nancy's ex is a lot more involved in her business, um, than I thought.
I'm curious how, um, your business partner and your Airbnbs,
in the pods, I thought it was like…
-Yeah, he's there, but he's-- -He's the realtor.
"He's the realtor," you told me in the pods.
And today I find out it's not only one house, you have a mortgage,
and you have this one that you fully own, but he's very much involved in it.
So I'm, like, I just need to know everything.
Yeah.
Like, 'cause you said you were living with your ex, and then you moved out,
but you still had the mortgage there with your ex.
Yeah. 'Cause he offered me the house.
And I said, "Well, actually I don't want this house."
So, he agreed to keep it
and right off the bat, we said, "Well, everything should be 50/50."
So, that's when we started to talk about, like, the bank accounts.
Making sure that those went 50/50. All the houses.
That house though, is…
-The mortgage is under his name. -Ours.
-It's under both y'all's names. -Mm-hmm.
So, are you still paying on the mortgage?
-No, he is. Yeah. -He is?
Okay. So, but you're still earning income from any…
-No. He is. -…tenants.
-He gets everything? Okay. -Yeah.
-So, you're just holding there? Okay. -Correct.
So, if he stopped wanting to making payments
and said, "I'm done with this," it would be your responsibility?
-Yeah. Yeah. -Mm-hmm.
Um…
Yeah.
And you trust him?
Yeah. I do.
The way my funds are set up is that I only acquire another property
if I know I have six months of savings to cover all the payments.
For me, the goal is to have as many properties
within the next five to ten years
that would be able to cover all of my living expenses and my family.
Once we're married, my money will be your money.
That's the way I see it. It's our money together.
My next property that I buy would be with me and my husband.
And that's how I envisioned, like, our…
Like, me and my husband being, is that we make $200,000.
We make $300,000.
You know, you got a bonus, we got a bonus, you know?
That conversation right there just made me realize, like, holy shit,
we make $200,000.
-Yeah. -Holy shit, yeah.
Me being six years younger and kind of having just started, like, my real career,
I don't have $3,000 laying around I can just write a check with.
She probably does. She bought this place for $120,000. That's freaking crazy.
I'd love to be a part of that and kind of grow our financial success together.
All right.
-Let's get out of here. -[upbeat pop song plays]
♪ Babe, you hit the spot ♪
♪ Love only grows ♪
♪ Don't want it to end ♪
-♪ Forever more you know you can depend ♪ -[music fades]
Hi, my boys!
Hi!
-[Brennon] This place is fancy. -[Alexa] Oh yeah. So, this is my house.
[Brennon] That's a way better coffee table than I have.
[Alexa] Yeah? My little balcony area.
-[Brennon] This is a cool space. -Right?
So, when we get married, you're going to move in to this building.
I've already actually… [chuckles] Funny story. I already looked it up today.
-You looked up this apartment? -[Brennon] There's no two-bedrooms here.
-[Alexa] Yes, there is. -At least online.
[Alexa] Yeah, but we wouldn't need it for a little while.
Not necessarily, like, right now.
[Brennon] As far as finance stuff goes, that's why I was looking this up.
I mean, clearly, I ain't no penthouse.
-[Alexa laughs] -[Brennon chuckles] Okay?
But I have my student loans which… It's only, like…
I think I'm around, like, $32,000.
[Alexa] So I don't really have that many bills.
I just have my, like, online shopping bills.
Like, I always want to, like, be comfortable,
where we can, like, go have, like, nice dinners, travel…
-Yeah. -And stuff like that.
Yeah.
For me, like, I never wanna have to worry about money.
That's a big, that's…
-It's a big fear of mine. -Yeah.
-Literally growing up and not knowing… -Yeah.
We wouldn't have eaten had our grandparents not helped us.
-Really? -Yeah.
So, I've been saving up to get a home.
Have you started saving for it?
Uh, a little bit.
I could see us, like… like, trying to get a house, like, in a year.
-Okay. -Is that something that's realistic?
-I think. I think so. -[Alexa] I think so.
We're gonna be having kids and all of that.
Like, I wanna be a stay-at-home mom, like, eventually.
-So… -Okay.
I definitely wanna do, like, a prenup as well.
[tense music plays]
-You clearly have more money than I do. -[Alexa chuckles]
-That seems obvious at this point. -I don't think… I don't know.
You wanna write it?
Just put whatever you want in that contract. I'll sign it.
-Yeah? -Yeah.
What does your contract say?
You have to love me.
-[chuckles] That's it? -Yeah.
[upbeat music plays]
[Brennon] My job is not my life.
I wanna be, like, the coach of my kids.
If they play sports, I wanna be the coach of their team.
Even if it's lacrosse, and I don't know anything.
-[chuckles] -I can learn.
-Yeah. -That's what I'm saying.
I wanna be involved in, like, their lives.
For everything, and not… The family dinner we talked about.
We always sit down as a family whether we're talking or not.
-But we sit down at the table as a family. -Yeah.
[Brennon] Education for me is the only thing that's absolute.
[Alexa] Yeah. You definitely don't get anything.
You'll get your things taken away if you're failing classes and stuff.
-Oh yeah. -[Alexa] I don't believe, like…
I don't believe in time-out.
We'll never take their door away from 'em.
-Can we agree on that? -[chuckles] That's weird, no.
Oh, it is weird. It's super weird?
-That's weird as fuck. -Okay, I'm sure--
We should tell my dad when we go to meet him.
-They took your doors? -Oh, multiple times.
-[Alexa] Really? -I had months without a door on my room.
That's very strange.
There's a lot more strange stuff to come, babe.
-[both laugh] -["Everywhere" by Nick Howard plays]
♪ Yeah, you're everywhere When I close my eyes ♪
♪ Oh, whoa-oh ♪
♪ But I know you're not comin'… ♪
[Raven groans] I feel like I'm gonna shit on myself!
[both laugh]
Just relax. Relax, please.
Relax. Remember how you told me to take deep breaths?
We got this.
I don't think I've met anyone's mom since, like…
Oh wow.
…Christmas of 2018.
[knocking at door]
[SK] They're here.
[Raven groans]
[upbeat music plays]
-Hey, Mom. [laughs] -Hi!
Hey, Mama.
Hi!
-Hi! -[AB] Hi. How you doing?
Hi, nice to meet you.
-[Ade] Hi, Raven. -Hi.
I'm Raven. Nice to meet you. [laughs]
Oh, thank you.
I've definitely been stressing over, like,
to just, I guess, see how his mom and I get along.
No, he eats, like, literally Nigerian food
or, like, junk food.
[AB] He snacks, yeah.
-[Raven] Yeah, snacks. -[SK] I've been eating healthy.
-Ever since you came into my life. -A little. Aww.
I've been eating healthier, so… I've been eating my veggies for sure.
-Yeah. -Yeah.
[SK] Are y'all ready? Are you hungry?
-[AB] Bro, a lot. -[Raven] Okay, let's start.
[Ade] You know, you're always hungry.
[Raven] I think that mother-in-law relationship is important,
and his mom means a lot to him.
So, I want her to like me. I'm so nervous.
[Ade] The Efo riro?
We are getting there.
-[SK] Does it smell good? -[Raven] Yeah, it smells good.
[SK] It is smelling good.
Shall we start moving this over?
[music fades]
-[Raven] Wow! -[SK chuckles]
[Raven murmurs nervously]
[exhales] All right. Grab a round piece like this,
and you grab some spinach.
-And eat it. -[Ade] Perfect.
So, do you just swallow it?
[SK] Mm-hmm.
You don't chew your food?
Not this one. [chuckles]
-You can chew it. You can swallow it. -You can swallow it.
Can I use a fork or not?
-You can use a fork if you want. -[Raven] Okay, okay, okay.
[tense music plays]
[AB] Mmm.
How it is?
-Good. It actually is spicy. -[music fades]
-I like it. -[SK chuckles]
[Ade] Can I ask you a question?
Why do you choose SK?
Why did I choose SK? That is a good question.
Well, first, we always laugh
because at first he was such a square.
-He is. -[Raven] Yeah.
He was like, just like, such a nerd.
But then, slowly,
every time, it was better and better and better.
We had more in common.
We had the same goals and the same vision for family life.
[Ade] That's good.
[Raven] And we're both…
Had similar lifestyles.
-Like, very motivated. -Good.
[Raven] And I really liked that every time we met in the pods,
I always learned something new about him.
-You know? -That's SK for me.
Really? [laughs]
So, how do your parents feel about it?
-My parents? -[Ade] Mm-hmm.
[Raven] Um…
So, they…
aren't gonna come to the wedding.
[Ade] Okay.
[Raven] Um…
-Which is okay for me. -[Ade] Okay.
[Raven] Um…
They are skeptical a little.
-You know, it's-- -Everybody is.
It's a weird way to meet your fiancé, right?
-[AB] It is. -It is a weird way.
We'll be the first ones to admit that.
But yeah, that's how they feel.
So…
[Ade] When I heard about it…
How did you feel?
I felt so excited.
Really?
But also, Mom, as part of the wedding, we're trying to, like, merge
both Nigerian and American culture together.
So, I'm gonna wear my agbada.
-Oh yeah? Okay. -Yeah.
And she's gonna wear, like, you know, the wedding dress
and a turban and all of that. So, we're trying to mix both.
[Raven] Nigerian food. Nigerian DJ.
-Wow. -Oh yeah.
-Bro! -[SK] Mm-hmm.
I feel so good.
Yeah.
Especially when Nigerian's food and this and that is coming up on this.
The culture. For sure. We're not throwing away the culture.
-[Ade] It's good. -Can't do that. [chuckles]
So, one of Raven's biggest concern is
she's worried about being accepted in the Nigerian community.
I just kind of want you to talk to her about
how, you know, welcoming our culture is and…
You are welcome in our family.
-Know what? -[Raven] Okay.
[Ade] We are all the same.
Only the color is different.
You know?
-I agree. Yes. -[Ade] Good.
Just put your mind at rest.
-You are okay with us. -Yeah.
Nothing to fear ever.
I'm so happy for them.
Seeing them together today, the way they play.
I love her.
I think I love her.
My only concern is about the parents, you know?
Because we Nigerians,
we really concerned about both parents.
Both supposed to be present in that day.
That part, I feel really concerned.
-[soft music plays] -[chuckles]
[music fades]
-["Live My Life in Color" plays] -♪ Cloudy skies but I'm all right ♪
♪ Don't you ever let Nobody else stop you… ♪
[Nancy gasps] We're here!
-[Bartise] The house right here? -[Nancy] This one. That's Papucho's car.
-[Bartise] That's Steve's? -[Nancy] Yeah.
Today, Bartise, my fiancé,
is meeting my mom and my dad.
First, Bartise is gonna get to meet my father,
mi papa and my brothers.
Then we'll get to see my mom in the afternoon
because they are divorced.
I want my family to feel proud, at ease.
I want them to feel like I'm making a good decision.
You drink cerveza, right?
-I'm ready for a few cervezas right now. -Okay. [chuckles]
[Nancy] The worst thing that could happen is
that they disapprove of our engagement,
and my brothers punch Bartise because he says something
that triggers them and then… [chuckles]
And then it turns into a brawl. And… And, I mean…
Joking, but not.
-Hi. -Hello, hello!
-Hello. -[man 1] Hello there. What's up?
-How you guys doing? -[brother 1] Well.
-[Bartise] I know this is Steve, right? -Yes, it is.
-I'm Bartise. Nice to meet you, man. -Nice to meet you.
-I'm Bartise. I like the hat. -How you doing? My name's Jose.
Nice to meet you, sir.
-[Nancy] Thank you. Yes, been on vacation. -Papucho?
-[Nancy] Hello, Papi. -Welcome to my place.
-[Steve] Name? -Bartise.
-This is exciting, yes. -[Nancy] Se llama Bartise.
I gotta say, I got lots of questions for you, Bartise.
Oh yeah? You ready for 'em?
I see you're opening… I'll give you a chance to open that.
The wine brings out the truth in everyone.
[Bartise] Yeah, yeah.
[Jose] Please, sons, can you…
[Steve] Take Bartise out back?
-Yes, we can. -Be nice!
-[Bartise] Uh-oh! -[tense music plays]
[chiming]
[Steve] Just the man I was looking for.
[Bartise] Uh-huh? You're older or younger than Nancy?
-[brother 2] I'm, uh, younger. -Okay.
But I'm older than you.
It's like looking at a little brother.
I know you're bigger than me and all that but, like…
I need to know a bit more about you, you know.
So I don't feel like I'm talking to… a little kid or something. You know?
I'm on my second career now.
I have my CPA license which is an accounting license.
Okay.
And specifically right now, I'm in financial due diligence.
The whole marriage thing, of all people you could have fell in love with,
you fall in love with my sister.
So now, what is it that really… really makes you think she's the one?
Real world, I'm just going to sleep happy and waking up happy.
Simple as that.
I can feel that I would be happy for a long time.
Hopefully, forever with Nancy, with your sister.
So, that's my reason for proposing to her.
That's what I saw in the pods, that's what I'm seeing in the real world.
I mean, everything you explain, the way she made you feel,
it just… it… it's a little bland to me.
It's not anything special to me.
[tense music plays]
I hate to tell you, but I mean,
she's just so open and friendly, like, she brings the best out of everyone. So…
[Bartise] The fact that she brings it out of me is…
She brings that out of all of us. She's not gonna be an asshole.
I don't share that with anybody though. I'm emotionally unavailable.
I never told a girl I cared about them like I told Nancy I care about her.
I really got to know your sister more than I've ever gotten to know any
girl in the world.
So, you're telling me if my sister were to gain
400 pounds, you would still love her?
-If she were to gain 400 pounds? -If she were to gain 400 pounds.
Would you still love her?
I'm not gonna sit here and tell you physical attraction doesn't mean anything.
Physical attraction… I take care of my body,
and I hope that my future wife takes care of her body.
-If she gained-- -You mean my sister?
Right. I haven't said yes to her yet, but that's what I'm planning on doing.
She will be my future wife. And if she gained 400 pounds,
I would hope that we connected to where she'd be okay with me saying,
"Hey, let's go on a little diet here." Before it ever got to 400 pounds.
There would still be an emotional love. Because that's what we did in the pods.
I mean, I'll say I'm not attracted to a 400-pound girl, right?
And the conversations that me and Nancy had had,
deeply, in the pods, and even in the real world now,
have shown me that we can get through that and that won't be a problem.
-That's good. -[music fades]
There's nothing I can tell you guys that'll make you understand
what we went through because it's such a once-in-a-lifetime…
Right now, you know, getting to know you, it's iffy, you know,
'cause I don't know you like that, like how she met you.
But, you know, I'm looking forward
to new beginnings, you know?
And if my sister approves, you know, I can't…
I'm not just gonna fold over you and tell you, okay.
But, you know, I'm gonna deal with it and we're gonna hang out and chill and…
That's how I'd be with my sister. Makes sense. I appreciate the honesty.
You're probably the same way.
Yeah, I think Steve and Jesus are…
They're protecting their sister, the only sister that they have,
but I feel like the brothers are starting to like me.
Looking forward to meeting her mom.
-["Feel This Way" plays] -♪ I just wanna feel this way ♪
♪ Just wanna feel this way every day… ♪
-Welcome to Acapulco. -Hello, hello!
-[Nancy] Hi! -Hey!
Hello, hello!
-Hi, Mom. -Hi, I'm Bartise.
Nancy's the baby girl of the family. They only have one daughter.
[Erendira squeals]
Oh my God!
[Bartise] Check the ring out.
[woman] Yes!
-How many carats is here? -[Bartise] A lot.
[all laughing]
[Bartise] And so, I hope Nancy's mom can see
how happy Nancy is with me, and how happy I am with her,
and that will turn into her liking me.
-So, this is Bartise. -Hello!
-My fiancé. -With a B, with a B, Bartise.
-Bartise. -Marcus!
-No, Bartise. -Bartise.
-Benito. -[Bartise] Almost.
Almost. That's what we can go with. We'll go with that.
[all laughing]
[woman] So, how's it been? Being engaged?
-Crazy. Exciting. -Yeah.
-Yeah? -[Bartise] Fun.
What do you think of Nancy?
Well, obviously, I love Nancy. So, I'll give you our whole story.
-I think she was my second or third date. -Yeah.
I walked in there, I say,
"Hey! What's going on?" She didn't say anything. She just laughed.
-[Nancy laughs] -[Bartise] That laugh.
But it was a lot louder, right? I fell in love with that laugh eventually.
Um, but I think we connected on, like, what we're looking for,
and we both said that we want kind of like a best friend,
and that's what she grew into.
So, after nine days, I proposed, and she said, "Yes!" Right away.
[Nancy laughs] Like, "Yes!" I screamed.
I think I fell to the ground.
I, like, danced, and then I was like, "Okay, can I say something now?"
-I blacked out. -And then you blacked out.
I had no idea what you said.
What do you have planned for my daughter?
What's your goal?
Uh, what you got to offer her, or what's… what are your plans for her?
[tense music plays]
My plan is to us have that amazing life. I want things to work and to mesh.
So, you would be able to afford her and take care of her financially and, uh…
And do you have a lot of debts? A lot of credit card bills?
[Bartise] I have student debt from college.
I graduated college in 2018.
Then I did my Master's, so that was…
I'm at, like, $12,000 there, and then I have, like…
I think I have $2,000 left on my car to pay off.
-Less than $15,000 total. We talked about. -Yeah.
We don't like to give money away on interest or penalties and all that.
You know, if we don't have the cash, we don't buy it.
We're not gonna go and put money on a car,
uh, which is a good thing.
I support you on what you decide to do, but, you know, marriage is not a joke.
[Bartise] Mm-hmm.
Marriage is, I feel like, it should be forever.
-You know? -Right, right.
[Erendira] For me, I could tell that experience.
Um, I got my own business. It's a bail bond.
And I've been doing this about over 15 years now.
I learned how to read people. I learn… I'm watching you.
-I'm observing you. -Good.
Because I could tell from your eyes
if you're lying when you're talking or trying to be somebody that you're not.
-[Bartise] Okay. -She works with criminals.
-Okay? -Good to know.
-But it's serious. -Not talking to you. Gonna talk here.
[all laughing]
I taught her how to fight because she couldn't fight.
I said, "Yes, you will. You're gonna learn how to fight."
If there's a problem in her marriage, I'm always gonna be there by her.
If you need defense or something, you know.
["Comeback" plays]
I don't wanna scare you, but, you know,
um, I'm that person. I'm nice.
I'm very caring, very loving,
but you don't wanna see me mad.
♪ I wanna see love make a comeback ♪
♪ I wanna feel hope when it runs out ♪
♪ I wanna see everybody join in hand ♪
♪ Until kindness wins again… ♪
-[Zanab] Here it is. -[Cole imitates brakes squealing]
[Zanab] Thanks for clearing the mailbox for me.
[Cole] Let's do this.
Ah, I just got my right hand dirty again. Supposed to be shaking hands with that.
[Zanab chuckles] That's why I have hand sanitizer.
[Cole] I wanna make a good impression on Zanab's family because I have
my situation where my family isn't fully supportive.
So, if Zanab's family doesn't approve of me,
I'd feel pretty crummy. That'd be bad
because I know that that's gonna affect our relationship.
[knocking on door]
[music fades]
-[man] Hello. -Hi!
-Hi. -Hi! Oh my God.
-Hi, Mom. -[soft music plays]
-Nice to meet you. -Hi, I'm Cole.
-Ryan. -[Cole] Ryan? Pleasure to meet you.
I brought you some flowers. They're a little hokey, but…
[laughs] Thank you. They're a little hokey.
[Zanab] My stepmom…
I never call her my stepmom.
She has pretty much raised me.
She's been really my legal guardian since I was 13 when my dad passed away.
I love my people so much.
They show up in my corner
no matter what I'm doing, and I love them so much for that.
Let's see the ring.
-[Zanab] Mm! -Mm!
-[Zanab] Take a look. -Very nice.
What did y'all think when Zay told you she was going to do this?
It's so vulnerable what you have to go through. I mean…
Yeah, I think we've both talked about opening up more than we ever would have.
[Zanab] Yeah.
[Beverly] Y'all have been prayed for constantly.
Thank you.
I would have never gotten on a knee if we didn't have shared faith.
-So, yeah. -[Beverly] Mm.
So, what I asked of him when he got married
was, "Do you see this woman being your queen?"
-Can you see her as your queen? -[emotional music plays]
Yes, absolutely.
I know that I love Zay 'cause even when we're fighting or having a bad day,
it never crosses my mind, "I want out of this."
It's always like, "Why do I still love you
in the midst of this fight?"
We're able to talk through anything,
like, that's queen material or wife material.
And I think communication's the most important thing in marriage.
[Beverly] Right.
So, how excited are you to go meet his parents?
-Um, Cole? -Well, we're… That's a work in progress.
-[Beverly] Okay. -So…
My parents aren't excited about how we met.
They're just a little upset.
So, when they meet Zay, they're going to love her. Like…
There's nothing to not love about Zanab.
But they're more upset at me.
You know, they just didn't expect this.
-Well, hope that they come around. -[Cole] Thank you.
-And we can meet them. -[Cole] Yeah.
We're still hopeful. You know?
But, um, it's something we're not gonna force
if that's not what they wanna do.
Right. It's just a matter of, you know,
letting this happen if it's meant to be, you know, and only you two know that.
-Yeah. -[energetic music plays]
[Beverly] So, Cole, would you like to go outside
and let's get to know each other a little better?
-Please, let's do it. -[Beverly] Let's go.
[Beverly murmurs]
-Okay. -[Cole] All righty.
[Beverly] Tell me a bit more about your parents' background,
as far as their faith.
[Cole] My mom's dad was a Baptist preacher.
That's laid the foundation in her for how she sees things.
One of the things they're not excited about is that, uh,
-Zay and I are already living together. -Right.
And there's a lot of little things around that
that's just causing them to, like, question me basically.
And I'd be lying to you if I said that's not affecting our relationship.
Because it is. And, like, I've told Zay this.
I have never pictured marrying someone without my parents there on that day.
Right. Well, if you look at it from Zanab's perspective,
well, I can imagine that she's feeling like, "What have I done?"
"Why don't they like me?"
"They don't like me because my skin is a different color."
-"No, they don't…" [mutters] -I know.
[Beverly] You know? And she's not even met 'em yet. You know?
-But that's what goes through her mind. -Yes.
And she'll go down that trail quickly.
-Yeah. -I mean, you know that I'm her stepmother.
-[Cole] Yes. -Um, and both her parents have passed.
So, I've known her ever since she was eight years old.
Okay?
And the day she came home crying, mascara running down her face,
all over the place, I go… "What's happened? What's going on?"
She goes… She walks in, throws her stuff down, she goes,
"I just realized I've been with you longer than I was my mom."
Even though she was appreciative of the family that she had around her,
she always had that hole that was always missing.
And I think she's gonna be looking to you to kind of fill that,
along with your family.
-And I think that's why it kinda… -Wow.
Okay. That actually makes a lot more sense now because…
She told me that that was one of the most important things to her.
She loved that I loved my family so much.
-She wants to be a part of it. -[Beverly] Right.
[Cole] I do have probably the most, like…
The family who's gonna embrace her and be generous and loving towards her.
-Once we can get through this… -Once they get over being upset.
-Yes. -Exactly.
That's why I'm like, "She is going to love my family."
I've just gotta get over this initial hump of like, "Cole, what are you doing?"
Our love is real, or else I wouldn't be here talking to you
if I didn't love your daughter. [chuckles]
-Dear Heavenly Father. Bless this man. -[Cole] Yeah.
Give him the courage and strength
to be able to get through these next few weeks.
Protect both of their hearts and both of their feelings.
-In Jesus Christ's name. Amen. -Amen.
-[emotional pop song plays] -♪ 'Cause every color falls ♪
♪ Like a heavy rain ♪
♪ I wanna feel it all ♪
♪ The beauty and the pain ♪
♪ I need a white wall ♪
♪ A blank page ♪
[SK sighs] Welcome home.
-[Raven] Whoo! -[SK] Welcome home.
-[snaps fingers] -Okay, looks nice.
This is baby SK.
Wow.
-[SK chuckles] -I see it. I see it.
[music fades]
[Raven] What is this?
[SK] It's just like decor. It's, like, from Nigeria.
Traditional thing. You just use it to, like, bless something.
-Clean the spirits out? The demons? -Yeah. Something like that.
-Well, not demons. But… -[Raven laughs]
Well, let's scrub it all out of here.
It's, like, cute that he's really tried to, like, decorate, you know?
But also, I'm like, "Oh, like, SK really loves velvet."
Like, it's really weird.
Like, I swear, every day, he's wearing velvet.
He's got a velvet bed. He's got a velvet couch.
Velvet barstools. I'm like, "Oh my God."
[chuckles, sighs]
He's never gonna wear velvet again when he hears me say that.
[chuckles]
-[SK] My lease is up in September. -[Raven] Okay.
[SK] But at least, it's still in time for me
to, like, make the move to school and everything.
So, um, move to school will be, like, August.
Cool. Yeah.
-I love that for you. -[SK chuckles]
-[Raven chuckles] -For me or for us? [chuckles]
Um…
[chill music plays]
Yeah, well, I think that I would probably keep my own house, my own apartment.
I like the convenience, living next to the mall.
-[SK] Plus, it's close to work for you. -It's very close to my job.
-[SK] Okay. -Um…
-So that's what makes it easy for me. -[SK] Okay.
I… You know, I don't like commuting too much, so…
There's no reason for you to keep this apartment.
[SK] So, you keep your place.
-[Raven] Yeah. -[SK] And we just shuttle back and forth?
One of the things I'm grateful for is
um, I did get a full-ride scholarship for school.
-So there won't be any student debt. -[Raven] Mm-hmm.
But, um, I'll definitely have to reduce my expenses and live like a student.
I'll say, like, I am so proud of you
for all your school and stuff, but, like…
for my life, like, I definitely don't want my quality of living…
[SK] Mm-hmm?
[Raven] …to suffer.
[tense music plays]
I know that, like, probably sounds really bad, like…
Whatever, if you're hopelessly in love, then, like,
-it shouldn't matter how you live. -[SK chuckles]
[Raven] But I feel like I work really hard to…
you know, be independent and live how I want to live,
and take trips, and, you know, have a nice dinner, and…
I don't spend that much money. I mean, okay, I'll rephrase. It's relative.
Like, yes, I go to Whole Foods all the time. I don't look at a price.
Nail salon.
Hair. My hair costs about $500.
Facials, massage, chiropractor, personal training…
-It can be expensive to be me. -[SK] Mm-hmm.
But I just would hope that quality of life would not suffer.
Would I like the fairy-tale traditional?
We get married, buy a house, have a kid, split finances?
Yes, that is ideal for me.
But none of that is gonna come for us
for, like, two or three years because SK is not gonna be working.
He'll gonna be going to school full-time in California,
where it's, like, way more expensive than living in Dallas, Texas.
And I know SK is gonna be
as, like, financially independent as he possibly can,
but now, I will have two people with one income.
I'm not asking for anything crazy, but I definitely was looking forward to
at least having a better lifestyle than I have now, upon getting married.
As far as I'm concerned, uh, you know, like…
I'm okay with, you know…
I'm good to take care of, like, you know,
whatever we decide to split as far as bills.
I'm also fine taking care of everything I need to take care of with school.
I want to do this as, you know, like,
effortlessly as possible for you.
-[Raven] If we're getting married… -[SK] Mm-hmm.
Um…
Like, I think that even if you're not living in Dallas,
we should both be paying the rent of where I'm living.
I think that is fair.
[tense music plays]
[SK] I think the biggest thing I'm nervous about,
is just, um,
Raven not being so compromising when it comes to certain things.
Early on in the pod, I was very upfront about, you know,
"Hey, I'm gonna be going to school."
"Things might not be, you know, all rosy and dandy."
"I do have some financial cushion to fall back on, but you cannot expect me
to be able to, you know, provide
or support in every way that I will be able to
after, you know, graduating."
I know asking someone else to leave their dreams to join your dreams,
it really is a big ask.
However, I'm ready to do everything it takes to make her feel comfortable.
But at the same time, if I need her to compromise
on certain things, I feel like it's only fair.
-["Alone" plays] -♪ My true love, you should know ♪
♪ I'd never let you go ♪
♪ I'd rather see you dead ♪
♪ Than watch you leave my bed… ♪
[Nancy] I did try your washing method today. [laughs]
What's my method?
[Nancy] Where I just, like, dumped 'em all into the washer.
The only thing is…
like, with socks…
-If they're, like, munchie… -[upbeat music plays]
-[Bartise] You just-- -I did un-munch them.
-[Bartise] Okay. I throw them in there. -How do they properly wash?
They're in there submerged in water. They're cleaning.
-I don't think that's how it works. -[Bartise] That's how it works for me.
[Nancy] So, growing up, did your mom make you do chores?
-Did you get allowance for doing chores? -Didn't get an allowance.
The only chores that we really did was sweeping, mopping, take the trash out.
How do you feel about, like, if we had kids,
having, like, a caretaker, a nanny?
Oh, I'd love that.
-Okay. -[Bartise] I'd love that.
-'Cause I know we're both busy. -[Nancy] Yeah.
-[Bartise] Do you feel the same way? -Absolutely. Yes. [laughs]
-I'll help you fold. -[Nancy] Literally…
[Bartise] Your clothes are so small.
-[Nancy] Not that small. -They're mini.
-I can't even fold these guys. -[Nancy laughs]
-Yep. -[Nancy] Um…
So, kids…
-[Bartise] Yes. -What is, like, your…
[music fades]
-Timeline? -Timeline, I guess? Yeah.
Yeah, good question. Two to four years is, like, the minimum.
And then obviously I can go for however long after that.
I feel like your timeline might be a little different.
[Nancy] But I also have to consider, like,
the fact that I am 31, and the older you get, the higher risk.
Like, women who wait till 37, 38… even 36,
and their kids have birth defects.
-My mom had me at 36, and it was fine. -[sighs]
I didn't even know that was a thing till now you just told me. But…
Thank God, like, your mom was fine at 36.
But what would you do if, like, you did find out
that, like, your child had a birth defect and you could abort the pregnancy?
-Do you want to keep the baby? -Fuck, no. Yeah, keep the baby. Yeah.
-I could not… Fuck, no. -[Nancy] Yeah.
[tense music plays]
[Bartise] They could be boy, girl.
They could be, you know, transgender, they can do whatever.
I just wanna love that kid no matter what.
Three legs, whatever it comes out, is, like, gonna be my… Our kid.
[Nancy] Yeah.
I think it's different for me. I've seen so much in my field.
It was so emotionally draining,
and so sad that I would cry almost every day.
A lot of time, even just with Down syndrome,
there's so many complications.
Medical, and also, um… learning complications.
And I see the amount of trauma that it does to, like, the family.
For me, if I knew that I could…
[somber music plays]
…try again and hope that the second time it's better,
then I would go that route, to be honest.
-Really? -[Nancy] Yeah.
I would never… I could never do that.
Especially knowing that we were trying to have a kid.
-[music fades] -Just… Just abort mission
because they're gonna have challenges and we're gonna have challenges. I…
I'm mentally tough enough to handle whatever challenge that may present.
And I just could never pull the plug like that.
-[Nancy] Yeah. -That's fucking rough.
-I could not do that. I'm sorry. -[Nancy] Yeah.
I mean, obviously, it's not just my decision.
I'm a very reasonable person.
Yeah, the whole… the abortion thing, I couldn't… No. Yeah.
What about, like, unplanned pregnancies?
I mean, on… My stance on that is like,
if it's unplanned and you're, like, youthful and still learning,
but I think you… you can get one pass.
-Yeah. -[Bartise] Right?
If you-- If you're not
financially ready for it, right?
If there's no way the family can take care of it,
and it's just gonna be a terrible situation,
then I think… and you're young…
[tense music plays]
I think you get one pass. But you can't do it again.
"I was young, I was dumb," whatever.
I think you can… You have a pass.
If I was a parent, I would tell my kid, "Hey, listen."
[Nancy] Yeah.
"We're gonna go through with this, like, one time. Don't fuck up again."
That's interesting.
I don't think that there's, like, a number that you can just say, like,
"Oh, one time to fuck up." [chuckles]
-[Bartise] I think that-- -I don't think that that's…
'Cause, like, what if the second time you get raped?
Oh, well, that's a different freakin' story.
[Nancy] And then the third time, you have sex with someone
who poked a hole in the condom 'cause they wanted to spread their seed?
I don't know.
Those two scenarios you just brought up, those make sense.
To where it's no longer unplanned. This is, like, a traumatic event.
So, I think there's no number there, but if it's just purely unplanned.
-Like, "I had sex, and now I'm pregnant." -[Nancy] Yeah.
I think after one time, you should learn your lesson.
Yeah. What about, like, Plan B? How do you feel about that?
Plan B, I think is different. I think Plan B is like…
Uh, like a… [sighs]
I have… I have bought Plan Bs. Definitely done that.
And that's… I mean, I don't think that compares to an abortion.
I don't think that compares to, like, the life being there
and just pulling the plug. I think that's like, "Hey." In the moment.
I bought Plan Bs after using a condom 'cause I'm, like, freaking paranoid.
-Yeah. -It's more of a paranoia kinda thing.
You know?
Yeah.
Why?
I think… I have no say in, like, anyone's body.
If you need to have an abortion for whatever XYZ reason… have it.
You know?
That's fucking deep.
That was one thing that I think growing up,
I wish my parents would've been more comfortable with,
is having, like, talk about sex and talk about what it is
'cause I think it wouldn't have been such a mysterious, like, thing to do.
Um, I probably wouldn't have had sex as early as I did
if I knew… that. Like, I had information.
Right. I never had, like, the birds and the bees talk, like, with my family.
[Nancy] With your family? Really?
-[Bartise] Never did that. -Oh.
-So how did you know? -We had sex-ed.
-From school? -Trial and error.
[both laughing]
-You're like, "So, it goes in here." -Does it go in there or there?
[laughs]
-Oh man. That is so funny. -[Bartise] Yeah.
-[soft music plays] -[Nancy] Well…
I appreciate your mind
to be open to this conversation,
and to share your side and to really allow me to, you know,
say the things that I had to say even though they were uncomfortable.
Thank you for listening.
Part of this whole experience is to open your heart and open up your mind.
Bartise is willing to learn, or willing to at least appreciate
where I come from and what my beliefs are.
That abortions should be left to the person,
depending on the situation, whatever they decide.
And I'm hoping that moving forward,
he would have these conversations with his daughter.
His heart, his mind being open,
it just makes me feel like I made the right decision.
You're teaching me so much.
-I didn't know any of that was an option. -[chuckles] Yeah.
Thank you for being comfortable sharing with me.
Right? That was kind of the basis of this whole relationship.
-Yeah. Yeah. -[Bartise] Was comfortability. So…
[upbeat pop music plays]
-♪ We gon' be okay… ♪ -[Bartise] Mm-hmm.
[laughs] Thanks for helping me fold my laundry.
-Oh, you're welcome. -[laughs]
Thank you.
♪ We gon' be okay ♪
♪ Whoa-oh, whoa-oh ♪
♪ We gon' be okay ♪
♪ We got it together ♪
♪ We gon' be okay ♪
You good, babe?
[music fades]
Doing good.
He's meeting my family for the first time.
Very excited. I'm excited.
I'm excited. Nervous.
-Why are you nervous, babe? -Meeting everybody for the first time.
Just be yourself. They're gonna love you as much as I do.
They're a crazy crew.
And if you're used to me, it's just me times, like, 100.
-Oh my gosh. -Good.
-[dog barks] -Hello, family.
-[Morgan] Hello. -[Alexa] Hello.
-[Morgan] You look beautiful. -Thank you, thank you.
-Hi. Brennon. Good to meet you. -Morgan. Nice to meet you.
-[man] Hi. -It is good to meet you. Brennon.
-You as well. -[Alexa] Come on in.
-[Brennon] Y'all have a beautiful home. -[Adam] Thank you. Come in.
[Alexa] Hello!
-Thank you very much. -Hi, my baby.
-Look, you wanna see-- -[dog yipping]
Look, you wanna see? This is-- I'm gonna marry him.
I'm Brennon.
-She's like, "Maybe not." -[all laughing]
-[Adam] Come in. -[Alexa] Hi, everybody. This is Brennon.
[woman] Hi, Brennon.
-[Brennon] Hi. -[Adam] Something to drink?
-Want a beer? Vodka? -Yes. Yes.
-Uh, whatever you got. -Take a drink, baby. Take a drink.
-It's a test. -[Brennon laughs]
If you say no, the front door is right there.
Always been told, my dad always told me, never turn down a drink. So…
-[Alexa] Babe, where should we sit? -Right here.
-[Brennon] Is it okay? -[Adam] The grilling chairs.
Tell us a little bit about yourself.
Uh, my name is Brennon. I just turned 31. Recent--
-[Alexa] Today. -Pretty recently.
-[Adam] Happy birthday. -[Brennon] Thank you.
-[Alexa] L'chaim. -[Adam] Mazel mazel.
-[Alexa] L'chaim is a cheers thing. -[Brennon] Is that a cheers thing?
[upbeat music plays]
I hope that y'all don't hate me by the end of the evening.
[all laughing]
-So, what did you guys bond over? -[Brennon] Just everything.
We spent a lot of time talking about family, about respect,
and we have the same sense of humor.
She's got this, like, this kind of like, alpha mentality.
This attitude where she's not afraid to say what's on her mind.
Um, she's very charismatic. She's tough on the exterior,
but on the interior, she cares about people in general.
Um…
She's just a very… very good person.
I definitely feel like I'm super in love with her.
[soft guitar music plays]
[Alexa] I just feel so comfortable and, like, so secure.
Like, I don't feel insecure ever… ever when I'm around him.
He stood out to me 'cause I asked if he likes to cook. He said, "Yes."
I was like, "What's your favorite?" He said, "shakshouka."
-You said that?! -[Alexa] Yeah.
-[Brennon] Yes, sir. -Yeah! I was like, "What?"
[Morgan] I would never think that looking at you.
[Brennon] I told you, I love food. I've eaten every weird food there is.
That's something I told her day one, which is, I love food.
-And to me, I really love food. -[all laugh]
You know, I-- Let me rephrase that.
-That surprised me. Like, what-- -[Brennon] I love food.
I feel like the best way to learn about cultures and stuff is through food.
Do you guys have any concerns about, you know, different culture, religion…
You know, Christian versus Jewish, Israeli?
Culture and heritage are really important,
and that's why I asked her if I need to take a class
because I don't know anything about Judaism or the Israeli culture.
I think we identify as more Israeli than Jewish.
So, we're Israeli culture.
-Jewish is just a religion. -Yes, sir.
So, we're very open about the way we feel. Zero filter.
[Brennon] Well, me and my family have zero filter either.
[Adam] Can you make me a drink?
So, we're very blunt about everything we say.
[Adam] How many girlfriends have you had?
-Um… -[Adam] Like, serious.
That you ever considered marrying?
-No, sir. No. Well, I-- -[Adam] Never?
Kind of. I mean, it was kind of on the table, for one.
But thank God that didn't happen.
-What's your longest relationship? -It was about three years.
When was that relationship?
[Brennon] That ended about a year and a half ago.
[Cara] Have you dated anyone since?
-[Brennon] I've been on dates. -Yeah.
-But, no, ma'am. -We gotta rid of the ma'am and sir stuff.
-It makes me feel old. -I like it. He calls me ma'am.
It's a Southern respectful thing. I think it's very sweet.
What about money ambitions?
Have you ever been unemployed?
[Brennon] Uh, no, sir. Not since I was, like, 14, I think.
-What do you do? -I'm a water treatment engineer.
Okay. That's… That's a pretty good living?
-I… I… I love it. -Are you a car guy?
I love cars. I mean, they're fun. I don't have a car.
-You didn't pull up on a horse, did you? -He has a car. He doesn't have a car.
I have an SUV. Yeah, I don't have a car. I have an SUV.
-You have a vehicle? -[Brennon] Yes, sir.
[tense music plays]
I'm usually a people person. So, I'm a little nervous today.
[chuckling] But this is okay.
Alexa's not a simple girl.
I want to have a private conversation with him.
["Woman" by J. Pollock plays]
All right, ladies. You wanna help me cook, and the guys can do a little powwow?
Baby, this is me throwing you to the wolves now.
This is that moment.
♪ You're playing with fire ♪
♪ You're playing with fire… ♪
[Alexa] All righty.
♪ You better run, you better hide ♪
♪ Before the wolves come out at night ♪
From what I know about Alexa, she's not gonna stay married to a chump.
[music halts, resumes]
♪ Playing with fire ♪
♪ Oh, you're playing with fire ♪
[vocalizing]
♪ You better run, you better hide ♪
[vocalizing]