[tense pop music plays]
♪ I'm a bullet train ♪
♪ A tidal wave ♪
♪ No, you can't slow me down… ♪
[Brennon] I'm very nervous to have a conversation with Alexa's dad.
I want him to know that I'm for real, and that, you know,
I'm gonna do anything it takes to marry Alexa.
And I want, you know, him to be okay with it.
I don't want there to be animosity, or I don't want there to be objection.
I just wanna be able to put his mind at ease as best as I can
that I don't look at this as a month-long thing.
I don't think this is a six-month, or a year, five-year plan.
This is… To me, this is…
This is my life.
Alexa comes off as tough on the exterior.
Yeah.
But, I mean, as you've seen, she's a very emotional person.
Of course, she's my baby. I don't want her to get hurt.
-Yes, sir. -And she expects a lot out of life.
So she expects just the way we live our life…
And, you know, live-life-to-the-fullest kind of people.
-Yes, sir. -Travel, food, fun, entertainment.
And I just want to make sure that she has somebody that can give her,
you know, what she's grown up with.
[somber music plays]
I can't promise you today, tomorrow, in a year, I can't give her this.
I grew up with no heat and AC in my house.
I've worked my whole life to make sure that's not the case,
and I don't want that for myself and my family.
I think that's part of… having not been ready in the past,
I've always wanted to be able to provide those things,
to be able to do those things,
um, and provide that to my family and my wife.
I can promise you 100%, just like I want to promise her,
I'll work every day, I'll work my ass off
to give her the best life that she deserves.
[Adam] And I speak my mind.
If I see you fucking around and slacking… slacking off,
and not living up to your full potential, I'll tell you.
Yes, sir.
To me, actions speak a lot,
and I wanna be able to show you over time who I am.
-I know this is a quick process with us. -[Adam] Yeah.
I'm 100% certain about being in love with your daughter.
-[emotional music plays] -Um…
She's… She's a wonderful person,
and we might not have come from the same way of life
or the same culture, but as far as things go,
the things that we value in life are the same.
We have that love for the family, with our families,
but also be acknowledging of others.
Like I said, she… she does play that tough part,
but inside she's extremely charismatic about people.
-She's very soft-souled. -Right.
Um, and I do see that, and that's… that's what I fell in love with, with her.
Okay. So I just want to make sure that, you know, she's in good hands.
I'm gonna give my entire effort to everything with her.
I mean, she speaks very highly of you.
So I'm going by her judgment. I hope that she's making a good decision,
you're making a good decision, and you guys live the best lives you can.
[chuckles]
We live a very affluent lifestyle,
and when I thought about Alexa marrying somebody,
it's a little bit different than what I thought she would marry.
But they 100% have my blessing.
He's a great guy.
It's the first relationship that I've seen her in where I say,
"Okay, I… I approve."
Um, so I'm very happy about that.
All right, so just one last thing.
You told Alexa that you wouldn't mind converting to Judaism.
-Yes, sir. -I got good news and bad news.
[music halts]
-We need to make sure… I got this… -[laughs] You brought the knives out!
[Adam] I got this so you can bite on something.
-Rag? Thanks, I appreciate that. -Which knife do you want?
["Ready to Go" plays]
-I think this one. -[Brennon] Oh, the bowie knife? Yeah.
-I got some guys that'll hold you down-- -I may--
[Adam] And I got some tequila.
Yeah. We'll do a couple shots of tequila first if that's okay.
-[both laughing] -♪ I'm ready to go ♪
♪ I got the gold ♪
♪ I'm gonna tell you all about it ♪
♪ Watch me now ♪
♪ I'm ready to go ♪
[vocalizing]
♪ Yeah… ♪
[man] What's going on, guys?
-Hi! -Hey-oh!
[all laughing]
[Matt] Finally.
Everybody, this is, uh, Miss Colleen.
-[woman 1] Hi! -[Colleen laughs]
Oh my goodness. Hello. It's so nice to finally meet you.
[Becky] Oh my God.
-I'm Taylor. Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you.
Oh my gosh. [panting]
-This is so nerve-racking but exciting. -[Kylie] Yeah.
-[woman 2] Let me see this ring. -I know. Everyone, there's the ring.
We haven't even seen that.
-There he is. Thank you, sir. -Thank you.
[overlapping chatter]
-[Matt] Love it. Cheers. -Cheers.
[Becky] Cheers to love.
-Cheers to love. -[Matt] There it is. Cheers to it.
[Becky laughs]
[Colleen] Is it weird to see him, like, here with… with a woman now?
-[Matt] Be honest. Of course it is. -[woman 2] He brings another one home.
[Matt] Shut the hell up!
-No, I do not. All right? No, I do not. -[all laughing]
-[Becky] It's just another one. -Yeah, I was like…
[all laughing]
-[Taylor] What's wrong with you? -[Matt] Let's go.
-They're joking. They're joking. -No, it--
-God, y'all are killing me. Jesus Christ. -So what was it about Matt?
Our conversations, I can… I literally cannot stop smiling,
and we were, like, joking around just constantly, and he--
[Matt] Just laughing the whole time.
His story and his background, I was just like, "Oh my God."
Like, he's… I honestly, like…
-He's such a strong man. -Aww.
And I told you that in the pods, "You're a beautiful person."
And, I don't know, just every single day, I just kept falling in love with him.
-That's when we dropped the bomb. -The L word.
The L-bomb.
-And we weren't gonna say it until-- -[Becky] So you did in the pod?
-[Colleen] Yes. -Before you ever saw each other?
-He said it. -Took the lead there.
-I was like, "Love you too." -Came out with it.
[Taylor] That's awesome.
[Colleen] I really am so happy, I can't stop smiling.
And that's all I pretty much, like, asked for going into this.
You're smiling, you're laughing, you're having a good time.
But what about… what about problems?
-'Cause it's… Marriage is not always easy. -[Colleen] Yeah.
-[Matt] We had a bit of a conflict. -[Colleen] We had a little tiff.
Honestly, he… he was pretty much done.
And I was like, "I'm gonna fight for you 'cause I've never felt this kind of love."
Honestly. Honest to God.
[Matt] I think we're stronger for it too. We both had said
we don't want to ride cloud nine into the marriage.
-If we're-- -That was also part of it.
If we're this high all the way in and nothing had happened,
then I'd be kinda concerned.
But having to have a little bit of an issue and walk through it,
kinda bring ourselves out of that low, I think was huge.
Three more weeks to keep learning…
[Colleen] Every day is a new day. It really is. It feels like--
[Lauren] You have a lifetime to keep learning.
[all chattering in agreement]
-[Matt] That is very true. -[Colleen] Yes.
-[Taylor] Super unique though. -Yes, very unique.
[Matt] 100%. Yeah.
[Taylor] But in my honest opinion, it looks natural.
-Wanna be a groomsman? Perfect. -Absolutely.
-'Cause you are. -Yes and yes.
[Matt laughs]
Hey, you want me to take your purse so you don't have to hold it?
-Thank you so much. -It'll be in my bedroom. Okay?
-Actually, can I go to the bathroom? Okay. -Yep. Come on.
BRB, guys. [giggles]
I want him to find his soul mate. That person that will walk through life
and love him, no matter what.
I see the way she makes him smile,
and I see the light in his eyes that has not been there in a long time.
-I have so many questions, but… -Yes.
[gentle music plays]
[Colleen] Oh. [laughs softly]
[music fades]
It's just really hard.
I want nothing more than for Matt to find the love of his life.
[Colleen] Mm-hmm.
But it's such an unconventional way to do it.
-[hesitates] Are you ready? -Yeah.
I mean, are you really ready to be married?
-[somber music plays] -Is anybody ready? That's what I kinda…
[Becky] That's true.
People have dated for shorter amount of times…
[Becky] Mm-hmm.
…and just ran to the courthouse.
I'm never gonna just wake up and be like, "This is the day. I'm ready."
And then I find Matt.
And I'm just going with how I feel…
-Yeah. -…and how much…
I know this is, like, really weird. This is really weird for me.
-It is. Yeah. -But how much I love him.
-Um, it's like-- -But, you know, when I met Greg, I knew.
My feelings for him are…
I don't think I'm that good of an actress, I really don't. And so… I'm real--
-'Cause that is the big question. -No, of course.
-I really don't-- -Everybody wants to know, are you…
Are you doing that for the cameras? Are you doing that just…
-Just to… put on a happy face. Exactly. -Yeah. You know?
You know, it kind of concerned me a little bit
that Matt said you guys have just laughed and smiled the whole time.
-[Colleen] Yeah. -[Becky] And that's fun.
-[Colleen] Mm-hmm. Yeah. -But is that all because of camera?
[music fades]
[Colleen] I get the kind of, like, you know, hesitations.
-[Becky] Yeah. -I honestly… I do.
I know that this is crazy and this is wild,
-but I'm gonna fight for this… -Mm-hmm.
…because of how I feel about him. Um…
So, as of right now, I'm not going anywhere. [laughs] But…
-I just wanna let you know, I'm not-- -[Becky] I think you're adorable.
-Thank you. You're just so sweet. -I really do.
And I don't think he could've chosen a better person.
[Colleen] Oh, thank you. [laughs]
This whole thing… I know you don't really know me,
but you will and I'm just…
I could never hurt someone that I love, and I really do love your son.
I really do believe that he does love her,
and I don't believe it's fake. I believe it's real.
[Matt laughs]
Now, whether she'll break his heart… I don't know.
The thought of Matt being blindsided by Colleen
does scare me.
Honestly, the thought of Colleen being blindsided by Matt scares me too.
And I pray every day
for him to have the strength to make the right decision… come that day.
What that'll be, I have no idea.
The last thing I wanna do is hurt that man.
And that's all I ask.
-No, yeah. -Is that…
[voice breaking] Is that you love him, and that you truly love him,
and that you give him everything you've got.
-Yeah. -And just know that I'm always here.
-[sighs] You're the sweetest thing ever. -And I'll always be--
I know, this is… really crazy.
-["Going to the Upside" plays] -♪ We going to the upside ♪
[laughs]
♪ 'Cause we only get one life ♪
♪ So we be doin' it right ♪
♪ We're gonna go to the upside ♪
-[Zanab] Should I be scared? -[music fades]
-[Zanab laughs] -Oh God. Oh…
-Oh wait, I see leopard! -[upbeat music plays]
-I knew about this. -[Cole] God. Are you ready? Are you just--
-[Zanab] I can see down, you know? -Let's just get you past everything.
-Where's, like, one clean spot? -I can only see down.
[Cole groans]
Okay, there's nowhere good to angle you. Let's try, like, TV area.
[snickers] This is all I got.
[music fades]
[upbeat music resumes]
[Zanab] Oh, it's very you.
[Cole] It's… It's dirty.
No, it doesn't smell bad. That's, like, a big thing.
Cole's apartment has "boy" written all over it.
Random pair of underwear there by your TV.
Yeah, what I expected. Really.
He lives as I would expect any 26-year-old guy to live.
Why do you have a chair up there?
[Cole] Because I have nowhere else to keep my extra chairs.
[laughs] This is not what our home would be like,
but that's the man I love, you guys.
So, I mean, I guess I have to just deal.
[music halts]
I've never seen that small and cute of a dishwasher before.
-It's like a… It's like a mini. -[Cole] Mm-hmm.
What do you think of my bed?
[Zanab sighs deeply]
[laughs] Your bed frame…
I mean…
It's… It, like, fits you.
We would not ever live here. Like, my lease is ending soon.
We would get a bigger, newer place.
I am impressed that you have a fitted sheet and a real sheet on it.
Yeah.
We're gonna need a little grace today. I'm embracing it.
If we're really getting married, then, hey, check it out.
I'm a human, and I can be messy at times.
I think it's kind of funny and ironic
that I left it this messy after we've been
talking about cleanliness.
Check this out. I have this capsule that my family gave me.
-This is where I store things. -Okay.
This is like everything you'd ever need to know about me, of my childhood.
They gave it to me. I couldn't have it until I was 25.
[Zanab] Okay.
[Cole] But I'm pretty sure there's a locket of my baby hair in here.
There's dirt that I played with…
-[Zanab] I wanna see. -…when I was a child.
-I wanna see. -[Cole chuckles]
-Look at this. -[Zanab] What is that?
-[Cole] This is dirt. "Cole's backyard." -[Zanab] "Dirt--"
[Zanab laughs]
We're preserving backyard for 25 years.
Wow.
[Cole] I guess that's my footprints…
Aww!
…from a baby.
-[Zanab] Is this you or--? -That's me. Look at my chubby cheeks.
-[Zanab] I want a copy of this one. -Aww. That's me in a basket.
-You want a copy of that? -[Zanab] It's so cute!
We could make a little tan version of this!
Aww!
[Cole] We'd have some cute kids, girl.
-[Zanab] This is a very cool gift. -I know. My parents are so thoughtful.
They literally gave this to me at, like, the most perfect time of my life.
My divorce had just happened, and I was, like, broken.
I just, like, needed a reminder of who I was, and they gave this to me,
and it was so fun.
-Yeah. -What a time to remember…
-[Cole] I know. -…where you came from.
-And how loved you are. It's so sweet. -[Cole] Yeah. Very sweet.
-[Zanab] You okay? -Yeah.
I know that deep down inside they love me. I don't question that they love me.
-I don't either. -Clearly, they love me.
-[Zanab] Of course they do. -After we looked through that. But like…
If they would give us a chance…
I don't think what we're doing is all that terrible.
But, for some reason, what's going on, it just has them, like, in fear.
They can't get over that it's different, it's an experiment,
that we're engaged this quickly,
that they didn't get to meet you before we got engaged,
that we're living together this fast, that… everything.
Because of my past relationship…
-Mm-hmm. -…they don't want me going through that.
-I want them to meet you. -[Zanab] Sure.
And I want them to see us together. They will see who you are.
They will see what's going on, that we really love each other.
[emotional music plays]
And I'm like, "I'm not asking you all to be on camera." You know?
I'm literally just asking you, "Do you want to meet my fiancée?"
They're like, "We're out." They're just gonna send me Bible verses now and stuff.
And it's like… [scoffs, sighs]
I thought relationship with Jesus was supposed to make you love people deeper,
not become more religious and more entitled and more self-righteous.
"And we just can't be around you 'cause you're not who we thought you should be."
Like… it's pathetic.
I hate to say it that way, but, like, it's pathetic.
[music fades]
So… I hate that I'm saying that because that sounds really mean,
but, like, it is heartbreaking.
[emotional music resumes]
[Zanab] It's not ideal, but…
I still have faith and hope
that there will be a point somehow in the next three weeks
that they'll be open to talk to you. It's not even, like, meeting me.
I'm happy to meet them on or off camera
in whatever setting is, like, good for them, but…
I hope they'll at least hear you out because…
-[Cole] Yeah. I'm… -I think that…
I think there's a lot to be said for what we did do.
[Cole] Yeah.
I'd hate for them to miss our wedding day because of that.
-So would I. -You know? It's obviously unfortunate.
And we will have, like, unwavering, like, support,
positive vibes from my end,
but I… I don't know if that's enough for, like, you.
So, our potential wedding day, and they're not there…
I used to think it was incredibly important
to have family's blessing…
-Mm-hmm. -…before marrying someone.
But, in this situation, I'm like, why would that be a dealbreaker?
Why would I stop something that is a conviction of my own…
[Zanab] Mm.
…to be with you and to go forward with this?
I'm gonna have to be a grown man and continue with what I'm doing with you,
with or without them being a part of it.
-["Before We're Leaving Here" plays] -♪ I'm trying to be open ♪
♪ But that window is closin' ♪
♪ And either way I need to make it clear ♪
-[Zanab chuckles] -♪ Before we're leaving here ♪
-["Feelin' Like Yeah Yeah Yeah" plays] -♪ Got me feelin' like yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
-♪ Got me singin' like yeah, yeah, yeah ♪ -[bell dings]
♪ Got me movin' like yeah, yeah, yeah… ♪
-I got the whiskey for Pops. -Okay.
The wine for Ma and Sis.
Just be yourself and you show them who you are
because they'll see how happy I am and see how much we love each other.
-And that's what they care about. -Yeah.
Today's a big day.
Nancy's meeting the fam, the fam's meeting Nancy.
So I really want Nancy to get my sister, my mom, and my dad's approval.
We're gonna be, you know, smooth sailing into our wedding.
-Oh my God, my greasy fingers. -Okay.
I'm gonna make one of these guys here. My mom's gonna love this.
-Do you remember-- -[knocking]
-Oh shit! -[Nancy squeals]
-Oh my God. You ready? -I almost cut my finger. [laughs]
-[Bartise laughs] Morning. Come on in. -Hi!
-Oh my gosh. Oh my goodness. -Good to see you.
[Bartise] Come on in. Ma.
-Hello. Hi, Ma. -Bartise. Hi, my son.
How are you?
-[man] What's up, bro. -Come in. We're good, we're good.
-Hi, Nancy. -Everyone, this is Nancy.
-Okay. -Hello, Nancy. How are you?
-So good. Thanks. -We come bearing gifts.
-Y'all brought stuff, huh? -[Penny] This is for both of you.
-Nice to meet you. Hi. -Hey, how are you?
-Doing good, thank you. -Good.
[Amalia] Can I see your ring?
[Penny] I thought it was an opal, but it's a diamond.
[Amalia] Yeah, it's really pretty.
-This is a party. We're engaged! -[Nancy laughs]
-It's a celebration, that's true. -[all laughing]
Would you guys have ever gone to a pod and try and develop a connection
and propose?
-I would. I think it's amazing. -[Bartise] It has been amazing.
He just gave me this feeling of we could be best friends forever.
I guess, how do you know it's really love?
[Bartise] Well, I was very skeptical coming in here.
I never thought I was gonna propose to anybody.
I really have never connected with anybody in the real world
like I connected with her. I have grown as a man.
-I feel like a man now. -I see it.
I see it too. You can express yourself.
I can talk now. I can tell you, "This is my problem--"
[Nancy] You didn't need a speech therapist?
No, I didn't. I never had problems with words.
-I had a problem with emotions. Right? -You brought that out in him?
She did. That's what I fell in love with. That was reason number one.
It was easy to go into the pods and talk to her,
and she opened me up and I could say,
"This is what I'm thinking, this is why I'm thinking it."
I dated a girl four years. Didn't share what I share with her.
-But you didn't have a choice. -I do have a choice. That's--
No, you didn't have a choice. You were locked down.
No, but I have a choice now. I'm not locked down anymore.
I'm still here doing the same thing.
I'm still sharing. She's still sharing with me.
I think what we have as a couple can feel perfect.
-[Amalia] It felt right. Yeah, right. -[Nancy laughs]
Yeah, we're on the same level, I was gonna say.
I wouldn't say perfect 'cause no marriage is perfect.
-[Bartise] No, we can see perfect though. -Okay.
I just wanna make that clear.
There's gonna be arguments. Can you work through that?
And I think that's… We did have a… I'm so glad you said that
'cause we did talk about what your perfect wife would look like.
And it was… I'm not your perfect-looking wife.
-Because you think that-- -[Amalia] But you're still attractive.
-Don't forget that. -Absolutely. We've had this conversation.
You're very beautiful, and you are hot commodity, I heard.
-You got proposed to before. So… -[Bartise] Yeah, she did!
-Yeah, she's a hot commodity. -She had multiple? Wow.
Well, tell us about Nancy. Who are you? What are your goals?
What would your life look like in, like, five years?
So I do pride myself in, like, being debt-free,
in being able to have my real estate portfolio growing, um,
and I also love speech pathology.
-That was one of our first disagreements. -Oh yeah.
I think my life and experiences are gonna be more valuable to me
than paying off debt fast. But we talked about it.
What I identify in the pods was that, if we did have a disagreement,
she's gonna have a level head like y'all raised me to have,
and we can just talk about it as human beings.
-Right. -[Bartise] Set the emotions aside.
That's what we've been doing in the real world.
It's easy to communicate and easy to hear both each other's sides
even though we're disagreeing. The thing I'm currently working through
is the conversation we had about, you know, the kids in the future.
If they're gonna have some sort of disability.
"Would we keep the kid?" I was like, "Why not?"
And then your answer was the opposite. And I was like… [claps]
-Sorry, I'm really passionate about this. -It's okay.
[Amalia sobs] And they're such blessings.
So to think that, you know, it's able just for them to not be here.
[Nancy] Yeah.
[Amalia] It's just crazy.
-So I'd just really like to talk to that-- -[Nancy] Yeah.
I only believe that now because of what I've seen.
I was working with kids who had special needs.
I specialize with Down syndrome, I had kids that were medically fragile,
so they have all sorts of medical illnesses.
And for me, working with so many… children
and the struggles that they went through, and then seeing their families break down,
and seeing where fathers were disconnected from the mothers and the family
and almost…
Almost as though they didn't have a kid.
I can't even imagine…
-Like, I would cry for hours after work. -[Bartise] Mm-hmm.
[Nancy] I realized if this happened to me,
what would I do? If I could have prevented that,
would I have?
[emotional music plays]
I'm not saying to change that. I'm saying that was a big factor to me.
I know you'd be open-minded to have a discussion in the future.
The topic of abortion definitely… worries me.
I wasn't afraid to bring up the topic,
but I know that a lot of people don't understand.
Although I was sad to see her cry,
I was hoping that they would understand
why I have my own beliefs.
[music fades]
Obviously, we feel very strongly about it,
but I understand where you're coming from.
But if I had a husband that wanted something different,
I would be the type to talk about it.
And that's what being married is about.
Just talking about things and working through them.
And I like the fact that you'll respect your future husband's… perspective
and work through it.
Yeah.
["You Need Me" plays]
[Bartise] I did want my sister's approval, but it's not her decision.
It's my decision to make and I know Nancy a lot longer
than what my sister and mom and dad know.
So, it's… Now it's on me to go from here
and maturely understand what happened tonight,
but also weigh what has happened up until tonight.
Where I've fallen in love,
Nancy's fallen in love. I know they can love Nancy the way I do,
but seeing my family react the way they did with that information,
this is the biggest thing for me to have to get through.
♪ Take the line I've been… ♪
I hope it works out for you. You're a good person.
-I like you. I really like you a lot. -[Nancy] Thank you so much.
♪ You need me ♪
♪ I've got control of the weather, babe ♪
♪ Oh, now don't you wish You were the rain? ♪
[SK] Think your friends are gonna grill me today?
[Raven] Like a steak on the barbie.
-[upbeat music plays] -[Raven] Hi!
Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi! Hiiii!
Oh my God. I would run, but my dress is too short.
[Raven whooping]
I have amazing best friends that I've had since I was a little girl.
Sisters to this day.
They're gonna do their best to ask questions, investigate,
and they're gonna tell it like it is. Like, I want to see the outcome.
How's he gonna do? What are they gonna say?
-[friend 1] So, ready to get married. -To Raven.
-Yes.
-Okay. You think Raven's the one? -[SK chuckles]
-She is. I know she's the one. -[friend 1] Why?
[SK] Um…
Uh, one of the things I like about her is I always told her that,
"You're, like, deep."
Like, "You're not, like, surface level."
And I think that's where our emotional connection started from.
I just think that, when I picture Raven's ideal man,
I thought you were gonna be maybe taller and, like, athletic, on that sense.
-I did not get Nigerian vibes at all. -[SK laughs]
I've heard, like, Nigerian culture is, like, super traditional.
[SK] Right.
They usually marry Nigerian women.
So, like, Raven is…
-Nigerian women here, Raven is… -[SK and Raven laugh]
-[Macole] Way over there. -All the way over there.
If you're expecting eight meals when you get home
and all your clothes folded up, like…
-She is a career-driven woman. -[squeals, laughs]
She probably won't be home by the time you get home.
Is that gonna be okay with you?
[music halts]
I think it's gonna be a match made in heaven.
-Really. No, I'm serious. -[Macole] Oh.
Because as a wife, I want her to be, like, my partner.
You know, like, my equal. I want her to be really the person she is.
She's a very driven, like, go-getter kind of person,
and I really like that about her.
I want a family where, you know, we have everything we need,
and we also raise our kids to be able to be like their mom, really.
-[Raven] Aww! -[Macole] That's sweet.
-[Aliyah] That was cute. -[laughs]
[Raven] I am really nervous. I mean, I do, like…
Like, I do think the cultural…
thing is big for us.
-Like, he is very Nigerian. I think… -[Aliyah] Yeah. And you're…
-[Raven] I'm very not Nigerian. -And you're half white, half Black.
-[Raven] Yeah. -It's a complete… It's not even…
-[Raven] Yeah. -It's a complete different…
-It's very different, I feel. -[SK] Mm-hmm.
And, you know, I was raised inside of white culture,
which I had to warn him.
You know? I'm from the dirty, dirty South.
-Yeah. -[Raven] And my family is white.
And sometimes that comes with some cultural and political ramifications,
and we even talked about that.
Like, that's always something that I felt like was super personal for me.
-Like, I'm always scared to tell-- -[Macole] People that.
Yeah, um, but he was, like, so good about it.
Um…
But on the flip side, like,
I'm not, like, super familiar with, like, the ins and outs of Nigerian culture.
Like today, I came home and he had… There was bread on the counter,
and it was Nigerian brand bread. It was--
-They got a farmer's market out here? -[SK] Yeah, we do.
-They have grocery stores, and I feel bad. -[Aliyah] Where?
[Raven] Like, I look… I've seen Nigerian food,
and, like, I know my limitations in the kitchen,
and that's too far for me.
-Yeah. Yeah. -You know?
I'm a pretty good cook.
Oh!
[Macole and SK laugh]
[Aliyah] Okay, three important goals to you.
Like, what are you trying to achieve
and how is her, as your wife, gonna help you get there?
-[SK] RIght. So… -Good question.
Obviously, uh, the biggest one for me is
I know it's really time for me to settle down and start a family.
Also, besides that, I actually have plans. I'm going back to grad school in the fall.
-Like, in person? -[SK] Yes.
-Where? -Uh, in California.
-Oh. -[SK] Yeah.
Uh, it's, like, a two-year program.
Uh, I'm going to Berkeley for grad school.
-[Aliyah] Well, at least you're smart. -[SK chuckles]
I know. I said, "Okay."
Literally, like, two months right after we get married.
[somber music plays]
So two months after y'all get married, you're gonna move to California.
-Yes. Yes. -[Aliyah] In school?
[Macole] So how do you think it's gonna work long distance?
Because her schedule is crazy. Her lifestyle…
[Aliyah] And she has clientele out here.
She has clientele here and then for her to get on a flight and fly,
it's gonna be a lot for her.
[SK] We're working through the concrete details of what that's gonna look like.
Putting numbers on paper to kind of figure out
how much are we gonna need to be able to make this work,
how many homes we're gonna have. That's like where we're at right now.
-Yeah. -[Aliyah] Who's paying for these houses?
[SK] Yeah. So I'm in a pretty secure financial state
where I know I'm going to take care of her.
[Macole] You're kind of robbing my friend of a fairy tale
because in the first two years, you're going to be flying back and forth
and with her lifestyle, how is she… How's that even fair? That's hard.
I just feel like it's not gonna work.
-Um… -[tense music plays]
-[SK] Whoo! Can we get some AC here? -I know.
The seat is hot.
♪ Putting the water down the drain ♪
♪ This isn't happening ♪
♪ Somebody wake me up… ♪
It's just… I'm not sold.
I don't know, I'm still kind of skeptical about how this is gonna work.
Yeah, same. I…
The travel, I just don't think it's going to work.
It's just gonna be too much.
I do see the qualities that, you know, that she could like,
and I do see why they ended up choosing each other ultimately.
But I just think, you know, she's a beautiful woman
and he's just saying, "Yes."
[both] Yes, yes, yes.
[Macole] It's gonna be a rocky situation.
It's gonna be rocky, I know. That's what I'm scared about too.
Yeah.
[Macole] It's a lot.
As long as I've known her,
she hasn't really been in a committed relationship.
-So I'm just not really sold that… -This is it.
…she's gonna settle down.
I think he's gonna get his heart broken.
♪ I can't, it's just too much ♪
♪ Never woulda guessed I know I never saw it comin' ♪
♪ You said that you were mine Well, then, I wish you did nothing ♪
♪ This isn't happening ♪
[music fades]
["Get Up (If You Wanna Get Down)" plays]
♪ We gonna have some fun now ♪
♪ Bam-a-lam-a-lam Everybody clap your hands… ♪
[Brennon] Do you like them longhorns over there?
We have the windmill, but it doesn't do anything. Just spins.
[Alexa] It doesn't mill the wind?
-"Mill the wind"? -[Alexa chuckles]
No, it stopped milling the wind about 20 years ago.
[music fades]
[hinge creaks]
-[man] Who are you? -[Alexa] Oh my God. Hello.
-How are you? -Doing well. How are you?
-I'm Tony. Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you.
-My fiancée. -[Alexa] Hi, hello.
Oh. Hello.
-Hi, and you're? Regan, nice to meet you. -Hi, I'm Regan.
-Hi. I'm Hayden. Nice to meet you. -[Alexa] Hello, hello.
You got the buckle and all. I like it.
-Look at you go. -[Hayden] Yes, ma'am.
-[Alexa] Thank you. -[Brennon] I wouldn't say… Thank you, sir.
-Now we say l'chaim. It means "to life." -L'chaim.
-[Tony] It means what? -"To life."
"To life." L'chaim. I like that.
-Okay. How did you do that? -L'chaim.
-[Alexa] Yeah.
I'm sorry, I kissed him. He's got lipstick on his face.
-Oh, was it… Was that you? -It's not another girl.
[laughs]
-We would love to show you around. -Please.
[soft guitar music plays]
[clucking]
[Rhonda] So this is our garden.
We have all kinds of veggies.
-[Alexa] Oh my God, this is gorgeous. -[clucking]
-She gets the idea. It's a garden. -No, it's cute, babe.
[Brennon] She's allergic to chickens.
-You can't take her back there. -[Alexa] I'm not.
-[Brennon] She's also allergic to gardens. -[Alexa laughs]
He's funny.
Oh, it's much cooler over here.
-It is nice here. -Much cooler over here.
[Tony strains] Oh goodness.
I got one question.
[music fades]
-Is this one real? -Wouldn't have proposed if it wasn't real.
That's what I told all of 'em. He's gonna take it seriously.
And you could tell it was real.
Yeah. I knew I was in love by day five.
And y'all know I kinda tend to
stop things kind of early sometimes.
But every day throughout this entire thing, I'd propose to her again.
If I had to do this 100 times over again, I'd do it to meet her.
[Tony] When you say "I do,"
that I do, is…
That's for real.
Everything about this is for real.
[soft guitar music plays]
[Rhonda] This swing was actually my granny's.
[Alexa] It's so pretty out here. This is gorgeous.
Have a seat, my dear.
[Alexa] Okay.
[music fades]
When Tony and I had our first date…
[Alexa] Mm-hmm?
-…he did not kiss me goodbye. -[Alexa] Oh.
-Tony. [chuckles] -Yeah.
That's how he raised his boys. Never kiss on the first date.
-Okay. Mm-hmm. -You talk.
And then you kiss. And when you kiss somebody…
[Alexa] Mm-hmm. It's like… That's like that meaningful thing.
We definitely talked for hours and hours and hours and hours before we kissed. So…
How did you feel?
-When I saw him? -No.
-Okay. -The minute you kissed him.
Oh, just… I mean, it's… Just at peace.
[soft music plays]
Like, I saw forever in him. I didn't just see, like,
you know, the right now.
He is just the sweetest, sweetest human being, like, I've ever met.
He just has this heart that I've never…
I've never, like, seen in anyone before.
[Rhonda] As a teacher, I look back on it. And now as a mom, I look back on it,
and the one thing I want my children to understand is
that life is about the goals that you set.
What are your, as a person,
what are your goals for the next five years?
I want us to be, like, parents more than anything.
No matter what that financially, like, looks like,
I would want our kids to have two parents, like, not just, you know, a mom.
-I want them to have a dad too. -Money comes and goes.
[Alexa] Yeah. It does. Yeah, I've seen it with my dad, so…
-[Rhonda] Life is crazy. -Yeah.
-Right before he left… -[Alexa] Mm-hmm?
-His dad was in the hospital for six days. -Oh, really?
And he couldn't come.
Because he runs.
He gets scared.
-He loves… deeper than deep. -["Possession (Your Love)" plays]
And he never wants to hurt anyone.
-Yeah. -He doesn't.
-Yeah. -But he gets scared.
♪ Have free will ♪
♪ Ooh ♪
♪ Your love ♪
♪ Cuts deep within my very core ♪
♪ Leaves me wanting more ♪
[music fades]
["Might Be Toxic" plays]
Things have been off between me and Nancy.
We've had a few issues, and now,
my sister is skeptical about me and Nancy's relationship.
♪ This might be toxic… ♪
[Bartise] And it's diminishing the emotional connection
that we developed in the pods.
The physical attraction is just not really there for me anymore.
It's kind of like… I'm having to second-guess myself.
Should I be feeling that way?
I'm not gonna fake it. I'm not gonna… be somebody I'm not,
and if I'm not craving that attention
or energy, or
like… sexual need,
I'm not gonna act on it. I didn't think I'd be feeling this way.
I didn't think it would've mattered,
but I can't cover this problem with a blanket. It keeps coming up.
I keep trying, but it's just like, it keeps popping up.
♪ So lift me out of my coffin ♪
[toiletries clicking]
[somber music plays]
I've been sensing that something was off.
♪ Feels hopeless ♪
♪ But I'm hoping That something's gotta give ♪
[chuckles]
[music fades]
[sniffles]
[sobbing]
-[somber music resumes] -♪ Avoid the fallout ♪
♪ While I'm falling down ♪
♪ But some things you just cannot change ♪
I feel like, um…
Before, he would give, you know, ten forehead kisses in a day,
and now it's like one, maybe two.
Even today, I said, "Hey, can I have a hug?"
And he said, "You're so needy."
And he was joking, but I was like, "Okay."
"But, like, you haven't hugged me since yesterday."
So I didn't think it was a lot that I was asking for.
And I feel like…
Like, I know who I am, and I'm gonna keep doing what I do,
and I'm gonna keep being the person that I am.
It might take a couple days to bounce back, but…
Like, I… I want him to love me.
Just as much as I love him.
[sighs] I hate crying.
[chuckles]
[plastic bag crinkling]
♪ Someday I'll wake up And you'll be here with me ♪
♪ I try to play it off Like it's a good thing ♪
♪ It's just a bad dream ♪
-[door shuts] -[music fades]
["Make Us Dream" plays]
♪ To absent friends, we'll raise a glass And everything that's come to pass ♪
♪ Has paved the road To lead us to this day… ♪
Hey, the engaged life is treating you well, bro.
I'm… Yeah.
I've never seen Brennon looking this good.
[SK laughs]
[Alexa] Hi!
-[all] Hey! -[couples cheering]
-What's up, Colleen? You look beautiful. -Nice to see you. Thank you.
Good to see you. We're doing girls and guys?
Hell yeah.
[upbeat pop music plays]
-[Zanab] So glad to have all of you here. -I fucking love y'all.
[Raven] Let's take a big inhale together.
[all inhale]
Exhale.
[all exhale]
So you and Alexa still deeply in love or what?
-Oh yeah. -Good.
-[Alexa] Brennon's looking fine as fuck. -Aww!
He's all about fucking you, and I fucking love that.
[laughs]
[music fades]
[Zanab] How's being back in real life?
[Nancy] I've missed y'all so much.
So where do you guys stand?
Malibu was so rough for us.
I mean, rough for us.
What happened in Malibu for y'all to, like, make it so rough?
So, Malibu was really hard 'cause, like, Cole's very attracted to Colleen.
[tense music plays]
I'm sorry, what?
I know! I know!
He was like, "Colleen is absolutely my type."
-[Colleen] That's what he said to you? -Yeah.
At that pool party, he said, like, "I would be attracted to you."
I didn't know what to say. I was just like…
I'm gonna be, like, transparent.
I was just like, "Oh, you're an attractive guy."
Yeah.
[Colleen] But I went to Matt,
and I was like, "Hey, this is how the conversation went." And he blew up.
[Nancy] Mm.
I mean, we fully, like…
Broke up.
I just hate that for you so much
because that's all off of, like, something he said.
I should've just, like… I don't know.
I honestly don't know what I should've done.
I feel like you played it right.
-I swear, these… men or boys? -[Zanab] It makes me so mad.
Matt and I were on the receiving end of this, and I felt blindsided,
and I do feel like Matt probably felt the same way.
I can see where Matt… would be upset.
So what's up, girl? You having fun?
-[Zanab] I'm happier than Malibu. Yeah. -Yeah?
-Malibu was really hard. Malibu was rough. -Yeah?
I feel like, pool party, I was still kind of, like, really naïve
to what was getting said, and then I found out everything--
So, this is what I heard.
I heard that… that he went up to her
and said that he was her type, and she was a cute girl.
-Yeah. -In response,
Colleen then said that… that he was a cute guy,
and in the real world, whatever happens, happens.
-That's what I heard. -In the real world…?
In the real world, whatever happens, happens.
[Zanab] I didn't get any of that.
I-- I didn't know to those specifics.
Regardless had she not said shit,
I would've been bothered that "your boy" felt the balls to walk up…
-[Matt] I was. I was frustrated. -As you should have.
-We've retooled it. -Where are you at now?
[Zanab] It's still a very big problem for me.
I, unfortunately, will never look like Colleen.
I'll never be the size of Colleen.
-Stop. No. You should-- -This has been a hit on my self-esteem.
[dramatic music plays]
Yep.
I never really got to hear what… what Colleen said back,
and I'm kind of reheated about the entire thing.
We are all engaged here.
Our wedding day will be here before we know it.
And there is no room,
there is no extra time just for massive disrespect.
-You should feel like the baddest. -I know.
And your husband, fiancé, should preach you up to be that woman.
-Yeah. I know. -You should. Don't settle for less.
If this ain't it, then don't settle for less.
-[Zanab laughs] -Don't.
-No, I know. -Listen. You're a beautiful woman.
Don't feel upset about it.
-Thanks. Thank you. -Don't. You know what I mean?
[upbeat music plays]
[Raven] Whoo!
[all laughing]
[laughter]
Hey, where's my shot?
[women squealing and laughing]
Hello, guys!
[Zanab] Our friends went through this experiment with us.
You know, those relationships are so important
because those people will truly understand what in the world we just did.
-[all cheering] -[Bartise] Andrew!
What's up, bro?
[sighs] Ooh.
-I got questions for you, motherfucker. -What's up?
-Yeah. -You heard some shit?
I wanna know how it went when you proposed.
I wanna know what'd you say, what'd she say, what happened?
I told her we're gonna build a real estate empire,
I told her we're gonna have beautiful, fucking hilarious banter day after day.
And I asked her to marry me.
And she told you what?
"Go fuck yourself. I love Bartise."
[men laughing]
Nah, she said it'd be cool for a while, but long term… nah.
All right.
[funky music plays]
[Andrew] Can I get a drink?
-Can I steal you for a little bit? -Hi. Yeah.
[Nancy laughs]
-[Nancy] What have you been up to? -Getting back to regular life.
-Yeah. -[music fades]
But, Nancy, have you thought about us at all?
[laughs]
I loved you, goddamn it.
[both laughing]
But did you though? Did you?
I mean, you can't… marry someone who--
-Marry. The word marry. -[Andrew] Yeah.
Where you don't have that mutual love for each other.
-Yeah. -Me, personally, I have no regrets, right?
I felt like I could love you. I proposed to you. It didn't work out.
But do you have any regrets?
I do not regret… saying no to you.
The one that thing people kept saying about you was, "Andrew is so smart."
And I was like, "Is he?" Like, maybe I didn't catch that. [laughs]
[sighs]
So after all that you've seen these past couple weeks,
does it still feel like the right decision?
Absolutely. I think the thing about me and Bartise is, like,
we, like, vibe off each other so emotionally,
but he's fading physically from me.
[tense music plays]
Like, Bartise told me that I wasn't his "type."
He wants tall. He wants blonde. He wants fitness model.
-Wow. -I was like, "Um…"
I think it just sucks that, like, the person that I love so much
doesn't love me as much as, like, I love him.
[sniffles] Um…
[voice breaking] I can't. I can't. [whimpers]
I never would have gave a fuck
if it was any other person that I dated in the real world.
But I think the fact that, like, this is a person who made a promise to me.
[sniffles] Like, a person who proposed.
And I'm like, "What the fuck are you here for?"
And so… [sobs]
Fuck me. [laughs]
Like… It's fine.
[sniffles, sighs]
It's fine.
-[music fades] -[sniffles]
It's not fine. But it'll be okay.
If you ever need anything, just know that I'm there.
Thank you.
[Bartise] What's going on here? I don't wanna be interruptive and shit.
-[Andrew] Oh, nah. -[Nancy laughs]
[Andrew giggles]
Why are you smiling… Why are you both smiling so much?
-You're smiling, he's smiling. -["Loyalty" plays]
[Bartise] What were y'all talking about?
-We're just catching up. -Yeah.
Should I have something to be worried about, you know?
I never thought I would feel, like, defensive,
but I do feel defensive here.
[chuckles]
I feel like we're just talking. [chuckles]
I know. I'm just… I'm just confused. I'm just… I'm just confused.
Unless she tells me not to be worried, I'mma be worried.
There's nothing to be worried about. She'll tell you. Look at her in the eyes.
Okay. I'm not gonna be worried.
Yeah.
Okay. Y'all have a good time here, then. Figure out what you need to figure out.
-I'm gonna be over there. -Okay.
[Nancy laughs]
-Cheers. -Okay.
[both laughing]
It is what it is.
-At this point, I'm like… -[Andrew] It is what it is.
♪ You give me new loyalty ♪
♪ Promised me You would always be good to me ♪
♪ You should know better Than to mess with me ♪
[music fades]
[Cole] Zay is crying, y'all.
OMG. I don't know where she went.
[indistinct chatter]
[groans]
How do I say this?
[tense music plays]
The entire conversation with you and Cole continues to mess with me.
And I'm not gonna lie to you, it does.
I know we were able to talk through it,
but I just feel like it could've been handled so differently.
I mean, it really was an innocent conversation.
But it's hard to get over after you're supposed to marry somebody.
I don't know what to do, what to say.
I'm content with doing my thing,
if I'm getting played, you know what I mean?
-I don't mean to throw this on you, but… -[Colleen] Yeah, thank you so much.
Please say something to bring me back down to life.
I just… I really do think that, like, you're picking apart
little things that we have gone…
Like, are you kidding me?
[tense music builds]
Are you kidding me?
I pour my heart and soul out to you yesterday,
and you're gonna do this to me?
[music fades]
What are y'all getting into tonight?
We have a lot of sex. That's what we're gonna do.
-[upbeat music plays] -[Bartise] What the--
-We're gonna have a lot of sex. -Tonight?
-Yeah. -Love that.
♪ I got wants and needs… ♪
We had sex night one.
But I was like, I wanted more.
I was like, "Is this the sex I'm gonna get for the rest of my life? This is it?"
Like, I wanted to have aggressive sex.
And then we had a conversation day three, and I was like,
"Yo, like… I wanna be thrown around."
Holy shit.
He was like, "Baby, I'll throw you around. I'll fucking do you."
[Bartise chuckles]
Yeah!
Love that!
[chuckles]
And so, day three we came home and, like literally, like, since then,
we've been perfect.
Good for you. Alexa, my girl.
[music fades]
What's going on with you?
How are you doing after everyone you talked to?
I just talked to Matt.
Um…
I know what you said to Colleen.
-[Cole] I have zero feelings for Colleen. -I don't care at this point.
Why do you not care? I am shooting you straight.
-There is one girl in this for me. -No, I care.
-You. -You have affected my self-esteem.
-I hate being this couple, Cole. -Then don't be this couple.
-Cole, you said something. Do you agree? -You and I were good.
Yeah, and we're still great. Do you not think we're great?
-I thought we were doing better than ever. -What has changed for you?
But now I feel like we're right back in Malibu
where you're really upset about one comment I made,
and then you asked more about it, and I could've lied to your face, like,
-"You're exaggerating." -Yeah, the honesty has really helped me.
You and I have talked about this extensively.
Colleen and I told each other how we feel about each other physically.
But in the pods, it was very clear
that emotionally we had zero connection whatsoever.
And you and I had, like, 11 out of 10 connection. Like, unreal.
I proposed to you without seeing you.
And then I saw you, and oh my gosh, there was another girl out of the five
that I thought, "Wow. That's more my type."
"That's kinda what I was expecting to marry."
But I proposed to a girl named Zanab.
You think I thought Zanab would look like the girls I dated in the past
that were named, like, Lily?
No. You and I have recounted this situation time and time again
on an airplane and in Malibu.
And here we are, two weeks later, and you have a conversation with Matt.
Do you see why I'm upset?
Because I thought we were past that.
I'm attracted to Zay, and I have no feelings for Colleen.
[Zanab] Yeah. I love…
I love that whole display.
That's my "display."
[chuckles]
That's how you treat the things I say? It's just a display?
You have said some things which are very nice, that are very nice,
and I feel like I have a good sense of where you're at.
I do.
Like, that doesn't negate the conversation I just had with Matt.
So you're just not able to, like, move on past it?
Like, unfortunately, like, Colleen is a knockout.
-I get it. Um, can't look like her. -Zay, you're a knockout too.
Will never look like her. But that's fine.
I'm more attracted to you than I am her now.
-I'm glad. Makes me feel great. -Because I've gotten to know you.
Zay, I am sorry that this whole thing has happened.
Yeah, I don't think you are, but it's fine. It's fine.
[tense music plays]
Matt and I, we were on the receiving ends
of what you felt was appropriate to say.
And we both got hurt in that. Do not take away from that.
Like, I'm on team Matt with this whole thing.
Um…
-You're on team Matt and not team Cole. -I'm…
Now you've switched sides, and I'm a bad guy.
-["Fair" plays] -Bro, you said…
You said something that was out of line. You did.
And this is not the kind of relationship I want with you.
So…
Go marry Matt.
Go marry Colleen.
[Cole] So Colleen and I are the bad ones.
So we should just swap fiancés.
Great.
Okay.
♪ You're not playing fair ♪
♪ Fair ♪
[music fades]
-[Raven] Don't pet me like a cat. Please. -[SK chuckles]
Oh my God. It looks so bad.
[both laughing]
You're like…
Oh, right, yeah. Pat on the back. Pat on the back.
[both laughing]
-[tense music plays] -[bottle clinking]
-[Matt] Here we are. Mr. Cole. -Yeah.
[Cole groans]
-[Matt] It was inevitable. Right? -Yeah.
I'm literally across the fucking pool.
Why even entertain the fact that you're a cute guy,
and if you were to buy me a drink or… Why entertain it?
First of all, I would've felt the exact same way that you feel.
Everything that you're saying, I'm like,
-"Know what? That makes perfect sense." -Right.
I said what I said to Colleen, but I wasn't hitting on her.
She and I were talking very plainly, and I know that she had zero feelings for me.
She was simply just talking.
[tense music swells]
She asked, "How are you and Zanab?" I was like, Zanab is not exactly…
the exact type of girl I've dated in the past.
-Right. -Colleen was like, "What is your type?"
-And me being-- -And you'd say, "You're more my type."
-"You're more my type." -Which I don't have a problem with.
And then in return, she kinda said, you're a cute guy.
Yeah.
And if you were to buy me a drink in a bar,
whatever happens, happens.
She didn't say, "whatever happens, happens."
[Matt] Gotcha.
I don't want you to think that she was, like, hitting on me at all.
Because she wasn't. I… I left that conversation,
and I was more so like, "Crap. Like, why did I ever open that door?"
There wasn't any, like, "Do you think this can work?"
-Yeah, yeah. -"I think I made the wrong decision."
It was zero of that.
I was definitely the one initiating it.
Colleen simply was, like, almost appeasing me like,
"Yeah, no, I think you're attractive too." She was being nice about it.
So let me ask you, man-to-man.
Do you think I should have any reservations?
No. Are you kidding me?
So if you were in my situation, would you trust her?
Yes.
And dude, she was 100% head over heels.
She's, like, madly in love with you.
I appreciate your honesty. I feel like you're being honest.
[Cole] Hundred percent.
So how about y'all? Where y'all at?
I don't know for a fact that she's gonna say yes to me.
I don't know exactly where I'm at. I know this for sure.
In Malibu, and a week ago, we were struggling.
-Now, we were doing good… -I saw that. We talked about that.
…until, like, 30 minutes ago when y'all had a conversation
and she came to me and she said she was on team Matt
because of how offended y'all both were from the conversation Colleen and I had.
-I'm like, "What did I say?" -I get that.
What did I say that was so wrong?
-Yeah. Absolutely. -You know what I mean?
There's a reason you didn't propose to that person.
And you know, sadly, I think she might've told me that that night…
-But you just couldn't hear it. Yeah. -I didn't wanna hear it.
All I heard was the… the few sentences that she told me at first and I shut down.
Hearing what you had to say really kinda solidified
there was nothing legitimately there between y'all two.
-So I appreciate that, bud. -Absolutely.
-Good talk, bud. -["Can't Just Let Go" plays]
♪ Just let go ♪
-♪ Can't just let go ♪ -♪ I don't wanna just let you go ♪
♪ I don't wanna let you go ♪
[music fades]
-[energetic music plays] -[crickets chirping]
[music fades]
Babe, I feel like you were weird on the way home.
-I was weird? Why? -Yeah.
-Like, quiet, on your phone. -Quiet?
I don't know what conversation you had with Andrew. Whatever happened.
But seeing y'all there, I was like, "Okay, what's going on here?"
There was a connection there, obviously. Was I interrupting something?
Did you want to continue talking to him? Do you wish it was him and not me?
What… Just… I mean, honestly, just tell me.
What do you want?
-Not him, for sure. -[Bartise] Okay.
But, like, it did get emotional. And I was like, "Fuck."
-I was mad at myself. -Why did you cry tonight?
'Cause it hurts. It hurts, baby. -What made you hurt tonight?
And I had to tell him.
I was like, "We're struggling with, like, the physical part of it."
No matter what I do, like, I will never be your type.
And the fact that I love you for who you are,
but you don't love me for who I am…
[tense music plays]
I do love you though. And that's why I proposed to you in the pods.
But, like, listen, looks do fucking matter.
It's not superficial of me to say.
It's human nature of me to say looks fucking matter.
For you to hold that against me, but it does feel like betrayal.
Stick to your type. See where that gets you.
Has it gotten you anywhere up to this point?
No.
[Bartise] Don't make it sound like I'm looking for perfect here.
Okay?
Everything matters here.
There's an emotional connection. Yes, we do have that.
But the physical shit leads into… other little problems that we've had.
The first problem was the ex.
He seems like he's more involved than he really is.
How much do you want to tell me? How much do I need to uncover?
Okay, I got over that. Tried to get over that, at least.
You know, and then it was the abortion and kids thing. I was like…
I just… It was just a lot. It was a lot.
[music fades]
That was… That just seemed like an unreal kind of
unraveling of information that I shouldn't have had to go through.
'Cause if we're gonna be truly compatible, we should be as similar as possible.
For me, like, those fundamental differences determine
whether that person is for you or not.
[tense music resumes]
I'm just trying to get over everything, but I can only get over so much.
But the fact that there is an underlying physical,
emotional connection that's not happening,
is making these problems bigger than they should be for me.
-But it shouldn't, baby. -I understand it shouldn't.
But that's what it is. How the fuck can I fucking move forward
with all these things that are happening on a daily basis
that just set me the fuck back
when I have this underlying problem. It's like, maybe I can get over it,
but let me get through the emotional shit and remind me where I was in the pods.
But fuck!
I'm trying my hardest to stay open-minded and it's fucking hard.
-[music fades] -Just like,
what next is coming that I'm gonna have to get through
two more weeks of this to get to the wedding?
[cell phone ringing]
[Bartise] Matt. Hello, hello. Okay, you're on speaker now.
-[Matt] Nancy. -Yes, I'm here, hello.
Where in the fuck is Colleen?!
[dramatic music plays]
I think they went to The Candleroom.
-Jesus fuck. -I know where they went.
They went to the fucking club.
Because the club is more important than coming back home to her boy.
[Bartise] Jesus Christ.
So I'm out. I am packing my bags now.
No, no. Stop packing your bags.
No, I'm done.
Matt. I'm coming. I'm coming to you right now, bro.
[door closes]
[Bartise] Matty-Matt. Let me in. What the fuck's going on?
-Get the fuck inside. Inside. -[Matt] Damn it.
What did you tell her?
I told her I was going back to the apartment
and she said she was gonna meet me here.
Okay.
And instead of coming back with me, she went to the fucking club.
-Bro, how would you not-- -I would be pissed off too.
Obviously, yeah. But I'm trying to say, like, this is not the end of it.
We don't have to pack the bags and get out of here.
Tell me how to stay! Tell me how to stay. 'Cause I'm out.
You've been looking for a fucking problem the whole time here.
-Maybe I have. -You've been looking for a problem.
-But where is she now? -Y'all have had no problems, dude!
I am jealous of where you are, bro.
You've had no problems with Colleen, the girl you fucking love.
The girl you found attractive at the day that you were revealed to her, okay?
I would pay money to be in the situation you're in, okay?
You are set.
Have a conversation with her tomorrow and it's gonna be great.
Even if it doesn't go great, you're gonna be able to say, "Hey I'm…"
One of y'all is gonna say, "Hey, I'm sorry. I was wrong."
No matter who it was,
both of y'all kinda wrong, both of y'all kinda right.
And that's the beauty of this whole fucking thing, right?
You guys are gonna love each other no matter what happens tomorrow.
Fuck, dude. I wanna be in your situation.
I get it, you're jealous of the connection that we have.
But is that connection really real?
I don't wanna be with a girl that's gonna be out 'till two in the morning--
You know she's not like that normally, dude.
-How do I know what she's like? -Have you not figured it out yet?
Honestly, I've only fucking seen her for a week and a half
outside of the fairy-tale fuckin' land.
-["Sweet Surrender" plays] -♪ Black hole where my heart sat ♪
♪ Smoothing over deep cracks every time… ♪
This shit right here, dude. This is the real world right here.
This is a Wednesday at 2:30 in the morning and she's nowhere to be found.
What is she doing right now?
It's not somebody I wanna give my life to, man. It's not. It's not.
Right now, there is no fucking way I can marry this woman.
♪ There's no way we can bring this back ♪
♪ Nowhere to run if the walls collapse ♪
♪ This is sweet surrender ♪
♪ Sweet surrender ♪
♪ That's got a hold of me ♪
[music fades]
[dramatic music plays]
[Cole] I'm looking at you right now with the sun shining on your face
and your beautiful brown eyes and you're beautiful.
We look great together. I am mad about you.
-[Raven] Yay! -[Nancy] Oh my God.
[woman 1] Are you gonna put on a Nigerian dress?
Um, no.
-[Alexa] Okay, Raven. -[Colleen] Oh wow.
It is very crucial for me to have their backing.
Back me up.
Even though I am feeling those… like, lack of physical,
the emotional connection that we have can lead us to saying "I do."
Yeah.
Are you gonna say no if there's something you find out that you don't like?
We do want to protect her. It can't be all perfect.
You're at, like, an 80 marrying me, right? Like, still saying yes?
Um…
[Matt] Do you believe love is enough for marriage?
[music fades]
No.
[dramatic music resumes]
[SK] I have the biggest decision of my life to make.
[exhales] Hoo.
-[woman 2] Are you nervous? -Yes, I'm freaking out!
[Zanab] I love Cole to the core of who he is.
[pastor 1] Will you please rise?
[dramatic music swells]
[pastor 2] It is now time to decide if love is blind.
Do you take her to be your wife?
[pastor 3] Do you take him to be your husband?
[music halts]
-["We Are Warrior" plays] -♪ For we are ♪
♪ Warrior ♪
♪ Ooh ♪
♪ Breathe it in ♪
♪ Euphoria ♪
♪ Ooh ♪
♪ For we are ♪
♪ Warrior ♪
♪ Ooh ♪